COPING WITH CONFLICT
An intensive, self-help conflict resolution exercise designed for
all types of relationships, guiding you from anger to peace, from despair to action, from outrage to insight.
If you don't believe the offending person envies or despises you in any way, then the reason for the offensive behavior must have been a case of bad timing.
At the time of the conflict, either the offender was under stress, independent of his/her dealings with you -- and just lashed out at you, because you were there -- or YOU under stress, independent of your dealings with her/him and your heightened emotions triggered the behavior in him/her.
It's possible that the conflict is nothing more than YOU being in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong person. His or her offensive behavior was probably a reaction to something totally innocent that YOU said or did.
Sometimes, just daring to breathe in the same space as another person is reason for conflict. Some people just want to be alone and resent intrusions of any type, and especially from certain people - like yourself.
Can you see that you may have been in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong person?
YES, I can see that timing probably had something to do with it - go to Handle
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NO, timing had nothing to do with it - go back to Envious or Despising because there must be something about you that triggers the offensive person to behave in the manner he or she does towards you. This time, think really hard -- it could be something as silly as the color of your hair.