COPING WITH CONFLICT
An intensive, self-help conflict resolution exercise designed for
all types of relationships, guiding you from anger to peace, from despair to action, from outrage to insight.
Logically, you would prefer that the person or persons in conflict with you behaved differently, but whatever they say or do does NOT make you:
- a failure, nothing I do is right.
- inferior, everyone is better than me.
- inadequate, it's no use trying.
- bad, and deserve to be mistreated.
- rejected, everyone rejects me.
- not important, everyone walks over me.
- incompetent, I can't do anything right.
- stupid, and deserve to be treated as such.
- too dependent, too needy.
- responsible for this situation, I caused it.
- insensitive to the feelings of others.
- overbearing, I walk over people.
- boring and deserve to be laughed at.
- weak, can't stand up for myself.
- unlovable, nobody loves me.
- unattractive, nobody is attracted to me.
- worn out and useless, fit the scrap heap.
- whatever
It merely means that the person you are in conflict with lacks centeredness and is incapable of being sensitive to you and probably others as well.
It is possible, too, that you may be far too sensitive to be able to relate successfully with that person. Some people are insensitive oafs and others, like you, are sensitive souls.