COPING WITH CONFLICT
An intensive, self-help conflict resolution exercise designed for
all types of relationships, guiding you from anger to peace, from despair to action, from outrage to insight.
Introduction:
Most people are kind, generous, decent and tolerant and have annoyances with other people rather than serious conflict.
If someone in your life isn't like most people, then serious conflict is inevitable and you need to take charge of your life - and possibly end your relationship with that person - in order to experience a normal existence, high self-esteem and satisfactory human contacts.
Remember: you can change your behavior, but you can't change someone else's.
That you have a conflict with someone means that you have a lesson to learn from it.
Conflict is always purposeful, happening on purpose.
Conflict occurs:-
- when we get out of touch with our values - it teaches us to honor ourselves and our values (not to allow others to dominate us with their values); and
- when we fail to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses - it teaches us to protect our strengths and weaknesses (not to allow others to devalue our strengths or use our weaknesses against us).
Conflict with others highlights the importance of being in constant touch with our values and always being conscious of the strengths and weaknesses that constitute our unique selves.
Every type of conflict is beneficial in at least two ways:-
- firstly, you learn something from anything that happens to you; and
- secondly, every experience is beneficial because it comes before whatever comes next.
If you are grateful for anything you have now, then you may as well be grateful for everything that ever happened in the past, too, because if any minute detail had been different, everything now would be different, too.
How you deal with conflict today, determines the quality of your life tomorrow.
The information on this site is designed for general guidance -- if you have serious problems you need to seek medical assistance.