COPING WITH CONFLICT
An intensive, self-help conflict resolution exercise designed for
all types of relationships, guiding you from anger to peace, from despair to action, from outrage to insight.
Does the conflict you are experiencing with this person or persons constitute an IMPERMISSIBLE attack on your self-esteem or security?
Violence of any type is NOT covered in 'conflict resolution'. If it's violence you're experiencing, go directly to the authorities.
Following are some examles of impermissible attacks on your self-esteem or security:
making you feel unattractive, sexually undesirable
downgrading your intelligence, honesty, morals;
making you feel jealous, unsafe in a job/relationship
criticizing you in public
dominating you or not acknowledging your existence
withholding information, going places, doing things in secret
degrading your worthiness as a parent, child, student, worker or whatever
threatening to end a relationship unless you do as he/she says
treating you as if you can't be trusted
being chronically hostile to you
dumping on you when you're down or drowning in your own problems
stalking you, contacting you or coming to your home when you've told them not to
setting you up in compromising situations
talking about upsetting incidents or people you told them not to talk about
being unsupportive when you ask for reasonable help
accusing you of lacking ambition, not having worthwhile goals
insinuating that you lack a meaningful life
Did the person or persons behave in an impermissible manner towards you>
- YES, some of these behaviors apply and they are definitely consistent and ongoing - go to Let Go
- YES, some of these behaviors apply, but they're definitely NOT consistent or ongoing -- go to Buttons