COPING WITH CONFLICT
An intensive, self-help conflict resolution exercise designed for
all types of relationships, guiding you from anger to peace, from despair to action, from outrage to insight.
Could the person you are in conflict with be paying you back in retaliation for your making an impermissible attack on his/her self-esteem/SECURITY - or that of someone close to him or her? Or could the payback be karma for treating other people - known or not by the person you are currently in conflict with? In other words, are you now reaping bad karma for behaving badly towards other people in the past?
Have you ever made impermissible attacks on anyone's self-esteem or security such as:
making someone feel unattractive, sexually undesirable
downgrading someone's intelligence, honesty, morals;
making someone feel jealous, unsafe in a job/relationship
criticizing someone in public
dominating someone or not acknowledging their existence
withholding information, going places, doing things in secret
degrading someone's worthiness as a parent, child, student, worker or whatever
threatening to end a relationship unless they do as you say
treating someone as if he or she can't be trusted
being chronically hostile to someone
dumping on someone when they're down or drowning in their own problems
stalking someone, contacting someone or going to their home when they've told you not to
setting someone up in compromising situations
talking about upsetting incidents or people to someone who has told you not to talk about them
being unsupportive when someone has asked for reasonable help from you
accusing someone of lacking ambition, not having worthwhile goals
insinuating to someone that they lack a meaningful life
- YES, I am guilty of behaving in one or more of these manners towards people in the past - go to Responsibility
- YES, I am guilty of behaving in one or more of these manners towards people in the past but I don't believe in karma and I refuse to accept that this person has a right to pay me back for something I did years ago to someone he/she may not even know - go to Annoyances