COPING WITH CONFLICT
An intensive, self-help conflict resolution exercise designed for
all types of relationships, guiding you from anger to peace, from despair to action, from outrage to insight.
For whatever reason, I cannot or will not communicate my feelings - not face to face, by email, text or letter or telephone - to the person/persons responsible for hurting my feelings.
If the person has gone out of your life making communication impossible then if he/she is unlikely to return then say 'good riddance' out aloud and get on with your life immediately -- but if he/she is likely to be back soon, then prepare to take Action.
If you feel that the offensive person is too young or too old or too stupid to benefit from knowing how you feel - or is not important enough to warrant direct action - then this is an active decision you have made and as such you should not be feeling too bad about it. Go to Annoyances for guidance.
If you are AFRAID of communicating your feelings to the person or persons concerned, then you cannot live an authentic life if you live in fear.
If you are being treated badly, if someone is making consistent impermissible attacks on your self-esteem or security then you need to communicate your feelings - you need to let that person, or persons, know how you feel about their behavior and how it is affecting you. If you are too scared to do it yourself, then enlist the help of someone to do it with you -- to be present and supportive when you face the offender and tell him or her how their behaviour is affecting you.
Communicating your feelings, giving the other person a chance to change his or her ways, is the first step towards conflict resolution.
- YES, I'm afraid but I WILL bite the bullet, communicate my feelings and resolve this conflict - go to Action
- YES, I'm afraid, but I'm NOT willing to communicate my feelings - go to Benefit
- NO, I'm NOT afraid -- not in the least -- and I have no desire to communicate my feelings - go to Annoyances