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ONWARD ~ and ~ UPWARD

Judith Florian, R.N.

 

Featuring articles and discussion of diverse topics, including:

Issues concerning Disabilities, Home Health Care, Sexual Abuse of Children, and Advocacy.

 

Sexual Abuse of Children (SA-C)

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Changes As Abuse Survivors Age

Artwork by those who have experienced SA or PTSD

 

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Artwork by those Sexually Abused as Children (SA, PTSD) 

 

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COPING THROUGH ~DRAWING ~

 


Friday, June 24, 2005 
6:36:00 AM EDT 

 

BIG, WIDE, COLORS!

Kids love to color. There is a period of many years (age: from first time they hold a crayon until maybe age 7 or 8) when they just don't care WHAT they color: walls, the electric bill, sister Barbara's science report, brother Bob's report card, daddy's paycheck, mommy's eyeglasses. They have no reserve -- they just want to see COLORS, and relish in the creative accomplishment they've done. 

Why do we lose that freedom of spirit? Why do we lose that spontaneous creativity? Way before school age is when we're expected to understand "mine and yours" and how "you can mess up your own stuff but don't mess up mine." But then kids are then still content to "mess up" and draw their lovely pictures on "their own" stuff - their books (adding to the illustrations therein), their shoes, their bed frame, their walls, their dolls or trucks....and for a limited time after starting school, even on their lunch box, their own report card.... 

By age 8 though, that all gets squashed as kids are taught that one's art is not valuable in some places and earns grades only if art is made on certain things. Unfortunately, that thing usually is a single-sided sheet of 8 1/2 by 11 inch plain white paper, or worse, papers with pre-drawn designs or pictures to color. Enter the "perfect coloring book" stage. "Stay in the lines," we have told kids so much by age 8 that their only remaining creativity is in their choice of colors. We now have little "artists" by mimeograph/Xerox, as long as they stay in the lines within the small piece of paper.

It's no wonder it takes many people decades to reclaim their true artistic spirit! The first time as an adult when one chooses not only the color, but the space the color uses, releases a new taste of freedom! If you have any doubt, buy a 20 foot by 20 foot canvas (even a tarp will do for the first time) and a 4 inch wide paint brush along with several or more cans of different color paint. Lay out the tarp or canvas and -- Make a swipe! Go ahead! Make another swipe! There's no pre-printed picture, no lines to stay inside. Load your brush and hold it above the tarp and let it just DRIP. Dribble the color around. Fling your paint right to left, or top to bottom with a flip of your wrist. Stab and dab at the surface with the paint. Twirl the brush. How many different ways can you "paint"? 

Stand up and paint. Now sit down (cross-legged if ya can) and add to your creation. Best yet, sprawl out on your belly, propped on elbows, and get real close to your colors and drawing. Experiment. What can you see? What can you dream?

It's real hard to teach oneself to forget to be "reserved." We were are all trained so well when young. But, don't you just want to see the COLORS? And feel good about your creation, whatever it is? And feel good, even if what you've made looks "messed up" to everyone else? (What's so wrong with a mess sometimes?)

Try it. Let your spirit be free - finally! See the COLORS!!!!

 

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No matter what you think of yourself, you can draw.  

No matter what other people told you, you can draw.  

No matter how you feel, you can draw.

 

As a matter of fact, the more you feel, the more you should draw.

You say you're numb?  Well, the more you don't feel, you should draw.

 

"I don't know what to draw," you exclaim.   That's okay.  Just let it come.

"I can't think of anything to draw," you cry.  That's okay.  Just let it come.

"I'm..... afraid," you whisper.  That's okay (so was I).  Just let it come.

 

 

Take a look at some artwork by and about survivors and their experiences and lives.   Some of the pieces are abstract, some are life-like, some are obscure, some are rather obvious and graphic.  You'll find half-done drawings that for one reason or another were never finished. 

 

One caution before you click on these pages:   Don't visit the pages if you think it is not the right time to look.  Have a friend or therapist with you, if you're feeling unsafe.  

 

 

IMPORTANT NOTES, PLEASE READ BEFORE CONTINUING.

Please note that I do not conduct therapy.  I am not a therapist, and cannot give advice on any subject.  Therefore, I do not accept emails concerning these drawings.  You are welcome, however, to sign the guestbook.  

I also can not make any referrals to any sources of help or therapy.  Please consult your local telephone directory or call your local "Hotline" for referrals.  Most survivors have heard this 1,101 times, but I will say it also:  If you feel unsafe or believe you cannot keep yourself safe, call a friend, your therapist, local 911 or your local Emergency Room.  

This site cannot help you with your life or difficulties, other than by knowing you are not alone and to know that others have gone through similar experiences and have survived the physical and emotional pain.  These works are posted as a way to share the the experience of sexual abuse and the long-lasting aftermath.    All rights reserved under legal copyright law.  

If you would like your artwork added to this web site, please leave a message in the guestbook and I will contact you with guidelines.  You would retain all rights to your works.  Submissions would need to be scanned by you.

 

 

You are on Page Two - (SA-C) - Coping Through Drawing

 Page 1 - SA-C - Introduction about Sexual Abuse

Page Two-B - (SA-C) - Open Letter to Physicians and Dentists

Changes As Abuse Survivors Age

The Needs As Abuse Survivors Age

On Alters 

 

Other helpful articles:

Snow Globes, Pick-Up Sticks and Crayons

The House on the Hill

 

 

Artwork by those Sexually Abused as Children (SA, PTSD)

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