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ONWARD ~ and ~ UPWARD
Judith Florian, R.N.
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Featuring articles and discussion
of diverse topics, including:
Issues concerning Disabilities,
Home Health Care, Sexual Abuse of Children, and Advocacy.
Sexual Abuse of Children (SA-C)
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Changes As Abuse Survivors Age
Artwork by those who have
experienced SA or PTSD
FOCUS:
Artwork by those Sexually
Abused as Children (SA, PTSD)
Article
COPING THROUGH ~DRAWING ~
Friday, June 24, 2005
6:36:00 AM EDT
BIG, WIDE, COLORS!
Kids love to color. There is a period of many years (age: from
first time they hold a crayon until maybe age 7 or 8) when they just
don't care WHAT they color: walls, the electric bill, sister Barbara's
science report, brother Bob's report card, daddy's paycheck, mommy's
eyeglasses. They have no reserve -- they just want to see COLORS, and
relish in the creative accomplishment they've done.
Why do we lose that freedom of spirit? Why do we lose that spontaneous
creativity? Way before school age is when we're expected to understand
"mine and yours" and how "you can mess up your own
stuff but don't mess up mine." But then kids are then still
content to "mess up" and draw their lovely pictures on
"their own" stuff - their books (adding to the illustrations
therein), their shoes, their bed frame, their walls, their dolls or
trucks....and for a limited time after starting school, even on their
lunch box, their own report card....
By age 8 though, that all gets squashed as kids are taught that one's
art is not valuable in some places and earns grades only if art is
made on certain things. Unfortunately, that thing usually is a
single-sided sheet of 8 1/2 by 11 inch plain white paper, or worse,
papers with pre-drawn designs or pictures to color. Enter the
"perfect coloring book" stage. "Stay in the
lines," we have told kids so much by age 8 that their only
remaining creativity is in their choice of colors. We now have little
"artists" by mimeograph/Xerox, as long as they stay in the
lines within the small piece of paper.
It's no wonder it takes many people decades to reclaim their true
artistic spirit! The first time as an adult when one chooses not only
the color, but the space the color uses, releases a new taste of
freedom! If you have any doubt, buy a 20 foot by 20 foot canvas (even
a tarp will do for the first time) and a 4 inch wide paint brush along
with several or more cans of different color paint. Lay out the tarp
or canvas and -- Make a swipe! Go ahead! Make another swipe! There's
no pre-printed picture, no lines to stay inside. Load your brush and
hold it above the tarp and let it just DRIP. Dribble the color around.
Fling your paint right to left, or top to bottom with a flip of your
wrist. Stab and dab at the surface with the paint. Twirl the brush.
How many different ways can you "paint"?
Stand up and paint. Now sit down (cross-legged if ya can) and add to
your creation. Best yet, sprawl out on your belly, propped on elbows,
and get real close to your colors and drawing. Experiment. What can
you see? What can you dream?
It's real hard to teach oneself to forget to be "reserved."
We were are all trained so well when young. But, don't you just want
to see the COLORS? And feel good about your creation, whatever it is?
And feel good, even if what you've made looks "messed up" to
everyone else? (What's so wrong with a mess sometimes?)
Try it. Let your spirit be free - finally! See the COLORS!!!!
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No matter what you think of
yourself, you can draw.
No matter what other people told
you, you can draw.
No matter how you feel, you can
draw.
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As a matter of fact, the more you
feel, the more you should draw.
You say you're numb? Well,
the more you don't feel, you should draw.
"I don't know what to
draw," you exclaim. That's okay. Just let it
come.
"I can't think of anything to
draw," you cry. That's okay. Just let it come.
"I'm..... afraid," you
whisper. That's okay (so was I). Just let it come.
Take a look at some artwork by and
about survivors and their experiences and lives. Some of the
pieces are abstract, some are life-like, some are obscure, some are
rather obvious and graphic. You'll find half-done drawings that
for one reason or another were never finished.
One caution before you click on
these pages: Don't visit the pages if you think it is not
the right time to look. Have a friend or therapist with you, if
you're feeling unsafe.
IMPORTANT NOTES, PLEASE READ BEFORE CONTINUING.
Please note that I do not
conduct therapy. I am not a therapist, and cannot give
advice on any subject. Therefore, I do not accept emails
concerning these drawings. You are welcome, however, to sign the
guestbook.
I also can not make any referrals
to any sources of help or therapy. Please consult your local
telephone directory or call your local "Hotline" for
referrals. Most survivors have heard this 1,101 times, but I will
say it also: If you feel unsafe or believe you cannot keep
yourself safe, call a friend, your therapist, local 911 or your local
Emergency Room.
This site cannot help you with
your life or difficulties, other than by knowing you are not alone and
to know that others have gone through similar experiences and have
survived the physical and emotional pain. These works are posted
as a way to share the the experience of sexual abuse and the
long-lasting aftermath. All rights reserved under
legal copyright law.
If you would like your artwork
added to this web site, please leave a message in the guestbook and I
will contact you with guidelines. You would retain all rights to
your works. Submissions would need to be scanned by you. |
You are on Page Two - (SA-C) - Coping
Through Drawing
Page 1 - SA-C - Introduction
about Sexual Abuse
Page Two-B - (SA-C) - Open
Letter to Physicians and Dentists
Changes
As Abuse Survivors Age
The Needs As Abuse
Survivors Age
On
Alters
Other helpful articles:
Snow
Globes, Pick-Up Sticks and Crayons
The
House on the Hill
Artwork by those Sexually Abused as Children (SA, PTSD)
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* More added as time permits.
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Coping Index...
Coping
through Writing... Coping
Through Music... Coping
Through Dreams
Coping
Through Inspiration-1 (large photo)... Coping
Through Inspiration-2 (small pictures)..
Coping
Through Inspiration-3.. Coping Through Day-Dreaming...
On-Frustrations...
On-Rejection...
On-Encouragement...
Life-Coaching...
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(c) Judith Ann Florian
159 E. Main St.
Girard, Ohio 44420
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