A recent
Inc. magazine
article
took aim at the conventional wisdom that people at work shouldn't get
entangled in romantic relationships -- especially bosses and
subordinates. There's some logic in the warning: If things go sour,
there may be accusations of sexual harassment, and even if things go
well, other employees might not feel comfortable.
But there's also logic in accepting and seeking out workplace
romances. Some points made by Inc.:
- A survey by the American Management Association reports that
nearly a third of managers have dated someone from work. Among those
relationships, some 44% led to marriage and another 23% to long-term
commitments.
- According to a study by the American Psychological Association,
only 1% of harassment claims are bogus. This should encourage
those who worry about being the target of unfounded claims. (It's
speculated that the number is so low because of the risks involved
in making a claim, even a truthful one.)
- Mari Florence, author of
Sex at Work: Attraction, Harassment, Flirtation, and Discrimination,
notes that the office is one of the most "natural" places to find
love. "The people you meet at the office are often more compatible
They have similar hopes and dreams."
- Entrepreneurs and others who work long hours will often find
love at their workplace or not at all, since most of their waking
hours are spent at work.
- While dating may be OK, mere flings can be destructive. And if
someone keeps saying no, that should mean no. Otherwise, it's
harassment.
- One last piece of advice: "Fall in love with someone who's
really good at his or her job. Then no one's going to question why
this person is getting promotions."
Inc. also notes the example of The Princeton Review
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10 top executives, including the CEO and president of the New York
City-based test prep company, are married to people who were on the
payroll. More than 40 couples that met at the company have tied the
knot. So far, there have been no divorces and no lawsuits -- though
more than 20 children have been born." It also points out that
Microsoft's (Nasdaq:
MSFT -
News) Bill Gates met
his wife Melinda at work.
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Sexual Politics--Sexual
Harassment is about Power Not Sex.
What is also true is for those of us who have REAL
sexual harassment cases, the people doing it are often psychotic and
may go to the point of stalking and harassing you outside of the
office. For a company to ignore such a complaint is insane. In
my case, the male was of a different race, born in a third world
country, 12 years younger and uneducated, while I was a
technical women who Microsoft and
Bill Gates personally pursued for employment. They did head
hunt me into their company and placed me in an unusual job right
downstairs from Bill Gates. Not only did Microsoft ignore the
sexual harassment complaint I made, they have remained hell bent over
the years to defend their mistake, even though the assault that was
involved resulted in a very serious injury to me and left me with a
permanent disability. Instead of protecting my right to privacy in
this case, they didn't even allow me an interview to tell my side of
the story. To this day they have never talked to me about this
situation. I wasn't even deposed in the
lawsuit and the case was dismissed before it was even legally briefed.
Defending the actions of a rapist or criminal is
nothing to take pride in Microsoft! Victims of rape under criminal law
can keep their names even withheld from public. In my case, I was
personally defamed by Connie Ballmer in the media, even though she had
never met me or have any kind of real information about me. And it was
Connie Ballmer who handled the PR part of my case at Waggener-Edsrtom
at the time. The situation was so bad that Steve Ballmer took to using
phony e-mail alias in Europe so he could harass me and some others
over the Internet. The situation was so bad that one of his own
managers in Europe reported him to Microsoft's Board. Ballmer repaid
this man by harassing him right out of his job. Having people with
this level of wealth attacking you when you have a disability is very
physically destructive.
Not only was I sexual and physical assault, I have
had to put up with the endless attack by Microsoft. They treated
my case the same way they did the antitrust case or any other.
I've had to put up with defamation of character, the total destruction
of my career, watch them harass and manipulate my children, help my
ex-husbands take my family from me, a permanent disability that has
required extensive social service support and now a powered wheelchair
and an a total lack of privacy in my life. What they didn't count on
was that a women at my intellectual level would spend the rest of my
life trying to CLEAR MY NAME and REPUTATION! I have to laugh at times.
AND if that means bring this company to it's knees, that is exactly
what I will do. NO CORPORATION that encages in kinds of criminal
activities to win lawsuits should be a monopoly. AND I have nothing
better to do with my time since they took every other means of
reasonable work away from me.
I was promised an investigation of these criminal
issues by VP Al Gore's Office in 1993 and it still hasn't happened.
Just how much money did Microsoft pay to get this investigation
stopped and to whom?
For the FBI:
Letters from the White House and Department of Justice and others.
You can go through my documents and their dates and
see a constant stream over 13 years of one issue after the other. So
right now we are here: The denial of medical treatment at
Valley Medical for a dislocated and broken elbow and the
assault at Overlake Hospital
(related story)
who didn't even do an X-ray of my neck or knees or put an ice pack on
my head. People know who I am and this is the kind of treatment I
get--abuse and no medical treatment at all. Just yet another attempt
to defame, humiliate and defame.
This is the main link page:
The Eye --
Sexual harassment, retaliation and the promotion of pornography by
Microsoft.
![The bruises on these pictures were light but darkened over the next few days. The one of my right upper arm was so bad that it was to the bone. I had good reason to want to leave.](Lightning_files/EqualJuaticeGates.jpg)
Man behind
Microsoft's Monopoly Power
Isn't it amazing that with this kind of evidence there
is NO attorney willing to take my case?
I
would love to see this Mr Gates eat this crap
He interfered with my ability to even get a public defender when he
was president of that. Justice for all as long as you suck up to him
and his law firm and family. Yep, you is going down in the History Books as just what you are
old man. Even your oldest daughter had to move away from you. Do a
Kristi Billy. Bill has never been good enough for you. He
has some flaw that you need to take care to cover up, like ME! I
had two Presidents of the Washington State Bar Association in the
early 90s and several others who either went to school with Bill Gates
at Lakeside say it was Gates Sr. and his attitude about his son.
They would say, 'I don't like Bill Gates much myself, but with all he
has given this community you would think his father would have
something positive to say.'
There are even others who are complaining about the
amount they give to both the UW and the United Way because they feel
that it's an attempt to own what should be public institutions.
Well, that is why I've been denied medical at the UW and had every
United Way agency I've dealt with, including my landlord Seattle
Mental Health treat me badly.
After I got a wheelchair, Seattle Mental Health had
all the door stops taken off all the doors I needed to go through so I
would have problems getting into the building, laundry room and
storage and refuse to remove the spring hinges on my apartment door,
even though other apartment's don't have them, so I'm constantly
getting injured just getting into my home.
Or after having two days of assessments with Hearing
Speech and Deafness Center in Seattle, my only choice for a job was
working in a Casino... Gee as a disabled person that seem like a
pretty high risk job to me. What it was is a slap in the face again
just to say, we aren't going to let you work at anything that matches
your education or skills.
Then it was even better when Washington Vocational
Services got involved. They wanted me to do a work easements at CEI in
Issaquah. This is a sheltered workshop for the Mentally Retarded.
When I attempted to do volunteer work in the Issaquah
school district, I got hit yet again. Here we have a district
desperate for technical help and I am rejected. I was told that they
didn't think I would be able to work with men. My last business
venture was a multimedia company and I was one women-CEO with 7 males
willing to work with me. My last for pay job was setting up a video
production lab for a company that would allow them to convert Beta Cam
into video for Windows.
This is what I get? I have no damages from Mr. Gates
and his law firm Preston Gates and Ellis? Mr. Gates doesn't do
anything wrong, he just encourages other people to by his actions. How
about Gov. Locke who wouldn't investigate the harassment in his own
government. I don't even have any social services and was denied a
hearing about DSHS interfering with my ability to get medical
treatment for a dislocated elbow, broken arm and sprain ankle.
Actually, I'm feeling kind of better without any services. I would
rather die in peace than to be badgered to death but local Gates
Foundation suck ups.
I'm going to have those answering machine taps up
as soon as I can figure out how to get them into MP3 format.
This is the declaration involving Mary Gates that was used to prevent me
from moving to Connecticut to work for IBM. Non of the women who are
mentioned in the declaration ever spoke to me either on the phone or
in person after I was assaulted at Microsoft. That is why I went to
the EEOC for help. I was being harassed at work and it didn't stop
after they fired me and I was getting ready for surgery.
I was so traumatized by this situation that I couldn't even approach
that company or anyone in the Gates family.
You know, a lot of these insane court document out on
this web are in the hands of Judges and Lawyers handling other
Microsoft cases. I learned something very important from Bill Gates,
Sr. You don't win a case on just the basis of facts. What really
count is who you are, know and what kind of bias you can create.
Thanks so much Mr. Gates Sr. You son lost his antitrust case with the
US and also the EU. Don't expect Microsoft to win an appeal of the EU
settlement. With what is in those documents, it's possible that
hearsay evidence will be admitted to support even harsher measures.
You see, the laws regarding abuse and discrimination of women and
exploitation of children are much harder in the EU.
So maybe you should take
a look at what your law firm said I did that was so wrong and deserved
this kind of treatment. Hey do you like SPAM and Porno?
Well, Microsoft used their monopoly to promoted so they could make
more money.
I never called anyone either or attempted to meet
them, especially Mary Gates. How would I? I only got the phone number
in the middle of 1994 after he called me and asked me to call him.
Perhaps if he had taken the time to meet with me I wouldn't be living
like this after 10 years of non stop harassment by people who think
that this is what he wants in order for them to get money from the
Gates Foundation. I did send Mary Gates a letter at the UW
about my background and who hard I worked to get through college as a
single mother, asking for her help. I was under the miss understanding
that this family supported women who worked hard to get out of
poverty.
Let's all say Charity
and United Way... Who is doing this?
Every single so called non-profit organizations I've
come in contact as a disabled person reek of fraud, including Seattle
King Co. Health and Human Services. Everyone is making a buck off of
the poor and defenseless people in this community, including Mr. Gates
who keeps on making so much money off his Trust that he is having to
pay taxes on it every year. His Trust is nothing but a tax shelter and
promotional fund.
In 1995 I put this web on the Internet because after 5
years of trying to put a sexual harassment case behind me, I found
myself accused of breaking into the Federal Building by the very
agency who was suppose to be investigating the retaliation issue--The
EEOC. I had been led to think that there would be some kind
of mediation where both sides would be in the same room to hear this
case. I learned over the years that the sole purpose of this agency
and our laws that give you only 90 days to sue are to white wash cases
like mine. Every attorney in the area that I went to said that they
couldn't take the case because the EEOC had investigated it. It is my
intent to get rid of the EEOC and these statues of limitation so that
people, both women and men have the ability to sue in for injury under
the same limits as someone in an auto accident or any other civil
case. I had to deal with the EEOC while I was trying to go through
major surgery and the emotional trauma for an assault--adding to my
traumatic situation and definitely having a major impact on me
emotionally when they didn't even interview me or any of my witnesses
during the case.
REDMOND ROSE
This agency and many others
waste valuable tax payer's dollars. It also waste the careers of
valuable employees.
Rod VanMechlan
was a male at Microsoft fired for simply writing an e-mail to a women
about her provocative behavior on the job. She was sexually harassing
him. And Ron Collins, who investigated my Labor and Industry case, was
also fired from his job for responding to a provocative e-mail from a
women employee. He was obviously set up too for having supported my
case. It amazed me that a corporate whore can totally destroy a males
career and yet a female that is high tech, has no civil right under
the EEOC at all. That Paula Jones case with Clinton really upset me to
no end. And the Monica Lawinsky case? Who was sexually harassing who?
And why does anyone believe a female who is coming onto a male in this
manner? And
then there is Bill Gates' mess... which is the case of the century.
And then come to think of it, I
always wondered why I was attacked by Connie Ballmer. Could it be that
Steve Ballmer was trapped in a similar way? After all,
Connie considered my e-mail to Bill Gates
about women using sex to manipulate men very threatening? To who?
Certainly not to Microsoft males!