Becoming Independant

I decided to give up education after I completed my A-Levels, as I got fed up with my parents pushing us and always reminding us that they are post graduates, both grandfather were graduates and the offspring is supposed to do one step better than their parents. Can you imagine the extreme pressure.

It was really difficult to persuade my parents to let me start work and I promised my mum it would be a one-year gap and then I can always go back to Uni. but I don't think in my heart I ever had any such intention. My dad seemed ok about as he thought it would be easier to get me married off since I was working and the person from overseas would have no problem getting a visa. He can carry on thinking like that I thought secretly.

I studied for my Banking exams, computerised Accounts and later on also completed Internet and Web Page designing courses, which resulted in the creation of this site.

I made a couple of trips to Pakistan by myself and my mum had mentioned to her brother that she would be grateful if they could someone decent for me. Once again I was having to go in front of a matchmaker who my nani-ammi stated was in fact my uncles friend but I wasn't stupid. Why would my uncle's friend want to see me and I put two and two together, which made my nani-ammi realise that I was in fact a clever chick. Anyway during my first two trips, my uncle who has now passed away realised that I wasn't ready to get married and refused to hassle me from then onwards until my last trip in 94 or 95.

Once again I became a fierce monster who wasn't going to become a submissive person, that would sacrifice everything to please others. Fortunately, it turned out that no one decent enough managed to walk into my life and then my parents left me for a bit thinking that I might grow up and realise what's best for me.

I am not sure if this was a mistake on their part but it definitely made me feel easy and go back to my own dreamland where everything was perfect.

Then when I was feeling really down as nothing seemed to be working out for me, my dream guy still hadn't entered my life and work was extremely boring.