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The focus is your child. The
focus is not who was always working, who didn't help with chores, who didn't
pay enough attention to the other, who did what, etc. while you were a
couple. |
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Do not use your child to hurt the
other parent. |
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Communicate in a positive manner. |
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Do not bring up the past.
Your child is your future and that is all that matters. |
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Prepare your child for visits with
the other parent. Be positive. |
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Encourage your child's
relationship with their other parent. |
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Encourage your child's
relationship with their step-parent(s) and other siblings. It is in
your child's best interests to have a friendly (if not loving) relationship
with their parent's other family members. If you can't accept this
fact yet, you haven't moved on. |
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Be friendly to significant others
in your ex's life. They are a part of your child's life
now. It is in your child's (and yours) best interests that you get to
know this person. They may be spending a lot of time with your child,
taking care of your child, etc. They will have an influence on your
child whether you want to accept that or not. If you refuse to see
this, you haven't moved on. |
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Share information with the other
parent, including school schedules, day care schedules, doctor appointments,
extra-curricular activities, etc. |
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Communicate, communicate,
communicate. |
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Share routines of the household
(your child's bedtime routine, disciplinary styles if possible). |
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Do not talk negatively about the
other parent in front of the child. |
