Domain

Explanation

I love U

• Wow … isn't it fantastic to be in love?
• There is a Chinese saying, "What is love? That binds everything about us" 問世間情為何物, 直教人身死相許
• Is love about making it?
• Is love about repeatedly searching for it?
• Is love about the body?
• Using the fundamental conservation of energy, if love energy reaches its peak, would other energies be diminished or would it transform into the direct opposite? - dynamics of love
• Is love about control? Or sharing?
• Is love about entertainment? Or biology? Or just talking?
• Is love different from infatuation?
• What is love???

Boy, U need an Agony Aunt

• To look at love is to look at life
• To look at life is to feel
• To feel is to get involved
• To get involved is to get attached
• To get attached is to need
• To need is to want
• To want is to crave
• To crave is to pursue
• To pursue is to repeatedly search
• To repeatedly search is to explore
• To explore is to find inspiration
• To find inspiration is to find love
• To find love is to look at love

Thought only the merry-go-round makes me dizzy

• Love at its most fundamental form is an emotion
• All emotions have the following attributes:

1. Perception: a perceived state of emotions is constructed from dual mechanisms of senses & perceptual filtration
2. Bio-chemical enabled: emotions are possible due to the availability & functionality of bodily processes à only organic media are capable of emotions
3. Inertia: by Newton's 1^st law, emotions have a buffering threshold before ignition & a corresponding termination resistance à difficult to start & hard to stop
4. Propagation: energy needs to be propagated to start, maintain or diminish emotions à by CoE, energy in other forms or aspects would be altered

• As perceptions are important to emotions, they are the same towards the feeling of love
• But, perceptions are dependent on people & connections

People & connections?

• A uni-sided (1-sided) perceptual feeling of love is incomplete, like hand clapping but with only one hand à a swan shape with a broken heart
• This uni-sided feeling termed infatuation is incomplete & not wholesome because it is missing in reciprocation à imbalance would not be sustainable
• The root causes of infatuation are:

1. Decoupled emotive dynamics: the emotions of the infatuator are decoupled (not connected) to others such that there is no reciprocal or feedback dynamics for the infatuator to regulate the emotions & even actions
2. Resonance of hidden emotive frequencies: emotions are composed of the harmonics of life, which are made up of inherent rthymic pulses or frequencies; once a party is within the consciousness of the infatuator, if the perceptual frequency approximates the high resonant frequencies of attraction, then the infatuator would be fired into the state of infatuation à however, at this stage, the none-the-wiser party might not even notice the infatuator, hence no reciprocation
3. Energy transformation: the world is as real as it is perceptual; many detriments can occur in various forms whether physiologically, emotionally, physically or socially; what better way to balance out these omni-present energies than with the feeling of loving à note: loving can be in 2 aspects - direct (reciprocated & in balance) or inverse (uni-sided or negative love = hatred) à a danger of channeling the concentrated energies into the detrimental avenues & doing harm to the party & the environment

• There is a saying, "Games are the lubricants of life", so is love
• A dual-sided feeling of love is reciprocated and has a higher chance of being love à the criterion: sustainability
• Both parties in dating, serious or not, are reciprocating to each other, in dynamic response, reaction & inter-actions
• There might not be resonance of feelings, but so long the parties' feelings are not decoupled from each other & they are aware of each other à there is a higher of love, than infatuation

What is this sustainability criterion?

• There is a common question, "How long can you last?"
• In other words, how sustainable
• The answer is it depends
• As such, complete love is a sustainable feeling / emotion, not an objectivity that can be singled out for analysis & pre/post-mortem
• By sustainability, it has 2 aspects:

1. Quality: how well, reliable & durable the reciprocation over the weathering of time, space & circumstances
2. Quantity: how much, how often the reciprocation

• We should expect people to pick quality over quantity, but circumstances & experiences would confirm that both the quality & quantity (amount) of coupled reciprocation are the necessary & sufficient conditions for sustainability
• By quality, the exchange of loving feeling would be tuned to the situations & parties à we often hear "I'll always love you" - the keyword is not love, but always
• By quantity, the amount of exchange would be tuned à if you need more, I give & vice versa

Finding

• The process of love provides general insight
• The feeling of love has the 4 aspects of perceptions, bio-chemicals enabled, inertia & propagation
• Infatuation is the single-sided, non-reciprocated feeling of incomplete love due to 3 causes of decoupled emotive dynamics, resonance of hidden emotive frequencies & energy transformation
• The feeling of complete love is dual-sided, mutually reciprocating & sustainably coupled
• Sustainable feeling of love is the quality & the quantity of coupling
• Hence, complete, wholesome & true feeling of love