What the heck is fidelity??
It's a choice, if you are unselfish, care more for the person's happiness than your own, and can make the decision...
You have the choice, if you make it, keep it... don't cheat... cheating is playing without ending the commited relationship... just tell the other person... I want to date/see other people". don't do damage to your Karma. Be honest.You may find they are of the same mind. And no excuses about not wanting to hurt the other person (it's a big lie). If you see someone and your hormones fire off like a roman candle... and you've made the decision to be in a commited relationship, then you just let the feeling wash over you and DO NOT act on it. You have the power. You've make the choice. You don't even need to re-visit the issue, you have already made a decision the of commitment. We all experience chemistry sometimes, so be mature, be strong. Don't act like a "Dog or Bitch"
If you just want to play the field, then be sure the other person is aware of this.... and if you feel like being commited to a relationship be sure the other person is of the same mind... if you "think" you are in a commited relationship, but have never discussed it... you may find that you are the only one commited. In that case no cheating can happen because you never made the decision as a joint discussion. So if you find that your partner is not practicing fidelity you have no room to complain, discuss what you want and see if you can agree on the future... since the past was not defined. He/she can't cheat if you never made a decision. All they can do is meet expectations that they are aware of....
Be good to each other and be honest as well |
