| More about me on "Ramblings page" now a little about me, I believe in the dream of 'forever after'... I think that dreams are a big part of who we are, what we are. If you have a dream and it dies... then it also kills a little piece of you... quite often thats how a divorce feels, it is a dream that has died and so has a piece of your soul... I believe that we all have to have dreams, hopefully attainable and healthy ones. I am also a realist and know that some dreams are only that and will never be realized. I wonder if the dream of 'forever after' is one of those. I have spent a lot of my life trying to make it happen. Sometimes just hooking up with someone that wasn't even a contender, maybe out of desperation or lonelyness.... and now I wonder if it is too late. |
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| I have some Being accused of evil intention if I make a mistake, everyone makes mistakes. Being falsely accused, I have never liked this, of course but on top of that I always look guilty. I think my childhood has left me with that "look"... You could accuse me of starting WWII and I would look guilty. Disloyalty is a biggie, if someone is not "with me" then just be honest about it, I can deal with people that aren't. But I have a propblem when someone who pretends they are. Cruel people, people that verbally abusive ie... "wait staff", wives, children ; Kindness and patience go a long way. Cruel people have small hearts. Smokers that don't respect non-smokers airspace... (I am a smoker) I would like to meet a non-smoker that would support me in quiting |
| PET PEEVE'S |
| My Love Style: Sensible I am looking to fall in love with a lifetime companion-someone who'll share the good times and the bad. I take love and commitment very seriously. To me, love is a partnership. It's an extreme form of friendship. Dating gives me a chance to learn what I like and don't like and who I would get along with best. However, once I know who I am looking for, it's a waste of time to pursue a relationship and risk falling in love with someone I know is incompatible. Mine is the most practical and reasonable of the love styles. I don't expect love at first sight. Liking someone is a good start, and as comfort and closeness grow, love can emerge. Of course, Sensible lovers have to be prepared for the possibility that it may not work out this way. When I "fall in" love, I "fall away" from the routines and rules that define my day-to-day life. It's this extraordinary emotion that motivates us to re-arrange our lives and priorities to incorporate someone else. Paradoxically, it's the irrational part of love that helps us deal with all the pragmatic and logistical challenges of committing to someone. Even after a passionate stretch, chances are my approach to love will return to a more Sensible style. Most lovers, regardless of how they start, evolve more into companions over time anyway. For now, my "style" of loving has these common features: I'm most likely to fall in love with a woman who is independent by nature. She won't expect to merge her life with mine. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give us more to talk about when we're together. Like the song says, "If you want to know if she loves you so, it's in her kiss." I want passionate kisses and won't settle for anything less. The two of us will probably be instantly attracted to each other. Sexual chemistry isn't everything, but it's a great way to connect body and soul with your partner. Both partners have to decide when they're ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of us have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given our feelings and how long we've been together. |
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| MY LOVE STYLE |
| LOVE STYLE & PET PEEVE'S BELOW |
| extra links: "Breakdown Lane" "Wasted youth" "Unexamined life" |
| I HAVE: MANAGED PEOPLE, TAUGHT CLASSES, FLOWN A PLANE, VISITED ROME VISITED SPAIN VISITED FRANCE VISITED GERMANY VISITED MEXICO VISITED CANADA JUMPED OUT OF A PLANE, FISHED IN THE DEEP OCEAN, CROSSED THE PACIFIC OCEAN TWICE IN A SHIP, CROSSED THE ATLANTIC OCEAN TWICE IN A SHIP, KISSED A MOVIE STAR, LOVED OFTEN AND HARD, GIVEN MY TIME TO THE NEEDY, DRIVEN CROSS COUNTRY, LIVED IN 4 STATES, EARNED RESPECT OF THOSE I RESPECT, SEEN GOD, HAD HEART SURGERY, WORKED FOR MCGOVERN AND WON THE PRIMARY IN CALIFORNIA, BEEN TO JAIL, BEEN A HIPPY, INHALED, SURVIVED, DANCED ALL NIGHT, ACTED IN A PLAY, CAUGHT LIZARDS, FOUGHT TO PROTECT MY GIRL, BEEN A MAGICIAN ON STAGE, BUILT A HOUSE WITH MY OWN HANDS, |