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Why me? We have all asked that question. The problem with that question is that we NEVER answer it. We generally stop right there and use it to the best of our ability to feel sorry for ourselves. That gets us nowhere! If anything it keeps us from moving forward. The problem with that is that time does not stop so that you may have the luxury of feeling sorry for yourself. Time marches forward whether or not you do. If you aren't moving forward then you are wasting your life.
The better question to ask oneself is WHY NOT ME? It is a question that you HAVE to answer. It may happen that the only answer is that it was GOD'S will. Or you may find that the answer (as painful as it might be) is that you put yourself in that situation. Either way you now have an answer. And yes, either way the answer brings on more questions. If it was GOD'S will, why did he choose me to suffer this fate and not the other guy. Why did I stay in that abusive relationship? Whatever that next question is doesn't matter. You will have to answer it, and more questions will arise from those answers. You will no longer have time to wallow in self-pity. Point is you will be moving forward!!
So the next time you hear that little voice asking WHY ME?, you need to ask it WHY NOT ME?. I think you'll be surprised by the answer.