Ok, so now you have given up trying to control everything but yourself and your thoughts and you have learned how to love because of that, now what? Now you must learn how to give. It is the secret to living. If you haven't learned the first two lessons then this will mean nothing to you. If you say to yourself "I give and give until it hurts.", then you are placing conditions on your giving. You have placed a price on your giving and tried to sell it. If no one buys what you're selling, you feel hurt. One must give unconditionally to truly give. You must learn to give without expecting anything back. That is what giving is. If you give of yourself unconditionally, you will never be hurt if no one gives back. You'll be a happier person for it. And you will be able to give of yourself, entirely, no matter what it is you do.