L. Nicole...with love :: Love & Relations

My Rules

Within this page you will find all my twisted thoughts about relationships and what I like and dislike. You'll get to hear about romances that did and didn't work and why. Perhaps you will even be able to see who really has my heart right now. You can go to my relationship page to get a chron list of the good, the bad and the ugly of my exes.

Honestly, I hate rules but we all have them even if we try to be open-minded and free to explore. I personally hate dating simply b/c there are so many dos and don'ts. I like to just click and go with the flow but I understand that's difficult. Since, as I said, rules exist I have outlined some general rules of thumb to go by with me.

Important Rules:

Do as I say without asking why or complaining.
Don't dare try to kiss me.
Don't expect to get something for being nice.
Don't promise to do something then don't - ESPECIALLY if you suggested it.
If you want to be with me and actually last then don't bitch about me having guy friends. Most have been around for a long time and if you intend to you'll learn to live with it.
Be there for me when I need and don't be late.

Things to know about me:

I'm always right...ALWAYS!!!
If I really wanted to be kissed I would kiss you.
I like men.
I get along better with men.
I don't really like nor get along with women.

Key Qualities of My Man:

Honesty: I can't deal with liars. I CAN handle the truth. And I handle it much better up front than in the confessing of sins moments. Why guys decide to tell the truth after months of lying then expect everything to be A okay just baffles me. *geesh*
Trust: If the relationship is going to be anything, I must be able to trust the person not only with my possessions but with my heart so this has to be a key component.
Forgiveness: We all make mistakes. When I make an honest, stupid mistake with no intention of causing pain or strife I think a second chance is in order. Empathy is tied in with this, as the other person has to be able to see how and why this mistake even occurred and feel confident that I am truly sorry and it won't happen again.
Consideration: Obviously, we are both going to have a life with certain aspects we will have to juggle. So the ability to consider what I may have going on and how his decisions will affect me is important at this stage in my life.
Faithfulness: Well, who wants a cheat? And from what I hear; once a cheat, always a cheat. If you aren't ready to commit then don't.
Brains: I honestly don't want to just have a cute, sexy guy - at least not as a boyfriend who I'd have to hold a conversation with. I once had a guy ask me why I used big words. Dude I said beautiful! Are you a f*cking retard?!! And this person used eatable in a sentence. I had to let that go. He was cute, sexy and really good at my favorite thing but he just had to open his mouth!
A backbone: Although I've dated a couple snakes. I don't mean this literally. However, I am not too good at taking care of people so I don't hang out at the disability center trying to pick up guys either. I am a very strong-minded person. If a guy is weak, I'll run over him for sure. Do I want to win? Yes, but I want him to concede or go down with courage and honor.
Integrity: By now we all should know right and wrong (as well as legal and illegal). How we deal with these issues is important and I want someone I feel has a high level of integrity.
Respect: I don't expect anyone to love everything I do. But if I'm passionate about something at least be respectful.
Looks: I have an affinity toward short, Hispanic guys. Shortness is just waaaaaaaaaaaay hot to me. It is the first thing I notice, period. Even if he's sexy and absolutely handsome, I assess his height before anything. Different I know. I like a nice tan, green and gray eyes, soft wavy hair, clean smooth skin, and a great smile with the teeth (and fresh breath) to match.
Humor: Life is short. Laugh hard. Being too serious will give you a heart attack early. Of course, your wit has to be compatible. And if you are funnier to yourself than to others, that doesn't really count.
Giving spirit: Honestly, I put up a hard front but I'm a spoiled baby. I want someone to take care of me when I'm not doing well or having a bad day. I like attention. LOTS of it. I won't implode if I don't have this but I'd give up some of the other stuff to have this component.
Yadda, yadda, yadda: As always there are little quirks that will set some apart but the above should give a good sense of what I like. Just to name a few key things in the optional category though: someone who can dance with me and not look like a retard, can be goofy with me but knows when to be serious, loves to see me smile and does what it takes to keep me smiling, is career focused but likes to have fun, shares some common interests with me but likes to try new things. Of course, there are more but my fingers get tired geez.

Dislikes (in men)

Too Laid Back: My guy can't be too laid back or I will just have to shake him or slap him around. I don't really mean that literally (well, actually I do kinda). I am referring to passion and conviction not combat.
Selfishness: I'm selfish enough for both of us. Besides one of my major quality characteristics from above is a giving spirit.
Conceitedness: If a guy thinks he's the hot shit, it won't last with me. I need something deeper than dealing with how great he thinks he is. And I'm not about to fight over mirror time. Even if the idea is confidence not conceit, that's a tad too much pride for me.
Hypocrisy: My guy has to hold himself to a higher standard than those he chooses to judge or chastise. Come to think of it, I don't like judgmental people. If you are just as f*cked up, shut up. If you don't like something, don't do it yourself or at least don't bitch and moan about it if you do it also.
Insecurity: A weak man is really not too sexy. I don't want to spend excessive amounts of time making a guy feel comfortable with the relationship or inflating his ego or esteem.