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Reality Check

So as wonderful and great as I think I am, I know I have my issues too. I tend to think I know myself pretty damn well. I am constantly thinking about self-improvement, which I need much of. Some things I've tried to work on but they have stuck with me for a while.
My bad habits/characteristics

• Moodiness: Okay, so maybe I'm bipolar and just can't control myself. I am a student of Socrates so I question everything -- usually three or four times. When the questions are about what someone did or something that specifically pertains to me and the answer changes when I ask the question, I get really pissed and my trust level goes to about -10. So my normally happy-to-lucky demeanor changes. This makes me seem very moody. I'm extremely logical. When things don't add up, my head takes over what my heart might have led me into. This conflict usually turns me into a raging hormonal mess. I could go from being angry that I was lied to then to frustrated at myself for not catching it earlier onto disappointed at the person back to being okay b/c maybe I am overthinking this too much. Get the point? I need things to be in alignment and harmonious or I have to adjust things back and forth until they feel right.
• Aggressiveness/Combativeness: I am passionate about what I believe and I go after that full force. I get a bit carried away at times though since I do have such a short fuse. I am a bit of a firecracker so be sure that you try not to get me lit.
• Extremist: I'm not a very gray girl. Sometimes I wish I were but I just seem to love or hate things. I think I'm so intense b/c I'm so passionate about things. If I don't care about something I don't argue about it. For some reason, some get really upset about that.
• Indecisiveness: If I'm torn between things I don't have a strong feeling about, I would really rather have someone else tell me what to do. I can make a decision but I'd rather have someone else make it simply because they would probably be more disappointed when things don't go well. I really don't want to take the blame for something I didn't care about from the start.
• Major Flirt: I think flirting makes people happy. I like making people smile and brightening their day so for me flirting is great. I do realize that a lot of people take flirting as the first hint that you like them but I will flirt with just about anyone who I think needs a little cheering up or is cute and who I think I can easily get away from.
• Secretive: It's pretty hard for me to let someone in. I've been burned by some people in my life. I see myself being in a position of power and influence some day and I don't want some angry person from my past who knows too much to ruin that for me.
• Attention Hog: Who doesn't like attention? When I'm digging someone I want attention from them. LOTS of it. I like performing so in that case I like attention too but generally if I'm not dancing or in an actual performance I don't want attention from random people.
• Spoiled (but not a brat): I'm the baby and only girl of my family so being spoiled was part of the job. Now, the fact that I grew up relatively poor helped me stay grounded to some level. I am very spoiled when it comes to getting things my way but materially I have had to work for what I wanted. One of my exes did manage to spoil me romantically/materially. As hard as I've been trying to break that, it's hard. I do want flowers at least once a month. I like getting Swarovski bracelets and I want to go out to dinner or get notes/little tokens of affection all the time. I don't expect these things but I grew accustomed to them and I like them. Of course, now that I make a pretty good wage, I tend to do it for myself. That helps.
• Overthinking: Not to be too philosophical but if Voltaire and Socrates had a love child, it would probably be me. I question everything (a lot) and then have to resolve the question with a REASONable solution. If the pieces don't resolve, I keep hacking at it until it does or I conclude it to be irrational. This is probably why I'm a good programmer. It's not simply enough to solve one problem. I must make sure it's an iorn-clad, unfaulable solution. I don't approach things from the make it work but rather the make sure it doesn't break perspective. People who aren't this way - and that's most people - usually call it overthinking. Sure, I could think about things less but that would require me to have complete faith and trust in whatever I'm being told/shown or whoever the information is coming from, which is a rarity.

According to a survey I took, because I'm selective and honest, I'm a priss. Go figure that. See my results: http://www.okcupid.com/personality?type=DBLD&g=2&o=1&h=170

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The background of how I tick... this could get scary

HOROSCOPE - Aries

I am an aries by birth and by all means. I fit ridiculously perfect into the mold of all that astrological crap that is assumed about my sign. For those who don't know here is a little about Aries.

The sign of Aries is symbolized by the Ram. Aries are competitive, assertive, impulsive, courageous, driven, independent, very impatient, initiative, generous, pioneering, energetic and dynamic. Seldom defeated because defeat is not recognized and rely mostly on oneself. Aries can also be bossy, quick-tempered, arrogant, impatient, brash, violent, hasty, forceful, and lack follow-through.

Aries is a cardinal fire sign, its planetary ruler is Mars, and its opposite sign is Libra.

If you want to find out more go to astrology.com