| SINGLES CELEBRATING JESUS!! Ephesians 6:5: Servants obey in all things your masters according to the flesh. Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers, but in singleness of heart, fearing God. |
| FAVORITE LINKS ROMANCE WITH WOLVES FALSE ASSUMPTIONS LOVE, SEX, RELATIONSHIPS ALTERNATE LIFE STYLES HOPELESSNESS, DESPAIR |
| PERSONAL STRUGGLES There are many different kinds of single people. Some have never been married, others separated, divorced or widowed. There are some single Christians that want to get married and there are others that are content and happy to live a single life. There are single Christians who have had, or are currently involved in, sexual relationships outside of marriage. There are some peacefully living a life of celibacy. There are other single Christians that are struggling with living a life of celibacy. Some single Christians are involved in bad relationships and some are dealing with emotions and frustrations that comes when you break off a bad relationship. Or it may be what you consider a "good" relationship, but your convictions to God won't allow you to compromise your values and beliefs. Some Christians are co-habitating without the sanity of marriage. Others, more than we may realize, are involved in homosexual relationships, some are dealing with homosexual desires and some are struggling with emotions and desires that come after being set free with the truth of God's word. Don�t fret!! There is a place in God where you can experience peace from broken emotions, broken promises, low self-esteem, loneliness and yes, even from sexual impurity and deviant lifestyles. YOU ARE GOD'S SUPERSTAR !! You are somebody! You are somebody special! You are somebody valuable! 2 Cor. 5:21-for he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin, that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. Even though you don�t have that special somebody in your life, you must know that you are someone special, someone valuable. You must know who you are, you must show who you are. You are a lady of distinction, a lady of quality. For some singles in our couple oriented society, self-esteem and identity are undermined by lack of a partner. It highlights the fact that more emphasis is placed on being with intimate with another person than being in intimate with God. As a single women, your hope, your worth is found only in Jesus Christ. You must know who you are Christ. BUT, BUT WHAT ABOUT MY NEEDS?? 1 Corinthians 6:15, know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then taken the members of Christ and make them the members of an harlot? God Forbid. Vs 18: Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. It is possible to be content when something you want and feels that you need, seems so out of reach. Contentment comes by trusting that God wants the best for you and will supply it at the proper time. Choosing to live celibate during this season of life allows you to focus on God�s will. To rely on him in times of loneliness and doubt. When you ache for affection, run to him, talk to him, and cry to him. Learn to allow his arms to hold you, caress you, comfort you. You will find that there is nothing more satisfying than succumbing to the love of God. The intimacy of sex can make both men and women feel wanted and loved. Having someone desire you and being pursued can be reassuring. But meeting your need this way is far short of what is possible with God. The emptiness and guilt from sexual activities outside of marriage are warning signs that something is missing. Rather than through lust and sexual sin, you can learn to reassure and soothe yourself by taking refuge inside an intense closeness of the Holy Spirit. Jude wrote, "Keep yourselves in the love of God" (Jude 1:21). You can redirect your affections by nurturing faith to enjoy the intimacy of God�s love wrapped around you. Doing so is vital to the purity of your walk with God. Though you can�t see it, the caress of God is something that is real, something you can experience. Your body is the temple of God. You and I were created to have fellowship with God to become intimate with him. We were created to commune with God, to live for Him, to be in subjection to His Word. When we live apart from him, we are living an incomplete life, a life that is leading to destruction God loves you so much and He wants you to have joy, peace, contentment and love in your life. He wants you to have the desires of your heart. However, he wants you to trust and wait on him. The sooner you surrender yourself to His work, the sooner He can begin to move in your life. But as long as you want to control your own life, you will go from one failed relationship to another. |
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| BUT, BUT WHAT ABOUT MY NEEDS?? (continued) Before you can be truly intimate with another person, you must be truly intimate with God. You were created with a need for intimacy, and the only fulfillment of that on the spiritual level can come from God. It is that need for intimacy with God that truly satisfies. When you try to have a relationship with a person, without first having an intimate personal relationship with God, you are trying to get that need for intimacy satisfied from a person. The problem that arises is that another person cannot fulfill that need. Intimacy must come from God first to fill that void that was created to receive Jesus. Once this void is filled, you are better able to relate to others because you are intimately satisfied in your spirit. We must remember that Jesus knows what we are experiencing. He took upon Himself the weakness of flesh. He knows what it is like to be lonely, to have sexual desire, to feel abandoned, to feel isolated and misunderstood. Hebrews states that "He was tempted in all ways, yet without sin." That means He knows exactly how you feel and He knows exactly how to bring fulfillment to your life. In order to accomplish this you must have a renewal of the mind. You must change your thoughts and attitude regarding love, sex and relationships based upon what society says. Romans 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. The process of renewing your mind starts with yielding yourself to Christ. God has a specific design for your life and in order to get you to the place where you are fulfilling God's design, requires surrendering your will to His. Through your surrender, God will make you into the person that He has called you to be. You need not worry that you will not be happy, for being the person God created you to be creates an environmeent where you are completely happy. Hebrew 13:4: Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Some people say that it does not make a difference whether they are married when they engage in sexual relations. They say they don't see what difference a 'piece of paper� makes. It is obvious that they don't understand that God instiuted marriage the sake of family and stability. It is about a committment between a man and a woman that is recognized by the law of the land. They point out that since they intend to be married "some day", they can't see where engaging in sex is wrong for them. How many time have you heard about someone going to get married, then for whatever reason the marriage didn�t� happen. There it is, a lot of wasted emotions and heartaches. You are not married until you get that little piece of paper in your hands. Don�t allow sex to cloud your thinking and good judgments. Roman's 6:13: Neither yield your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin. But yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. You must therefore, crucify the flesh with its lust and sensual cravings. You must give control of your emotions and desires over to God. When you find yourself in a situation in which you are tempted to yield to sexual desire, there will always be a similar desire to refuse that temptation. That desire is the voice of the Holy Spirit within you. Yield to His voice, not to the voice of your flesh. You cannot enjoy all the blessings that come from living in line with God's Holy Word if you are involved in fornication or other sexual sins. As long as you are out of line with God's will for you, you are living a lie and will have conflict. Every desire and every blessing that God has for you will be frustrated until you come into harmony with God's Word. Once you yield to God and his will for you, then everything will begin to fall into place. Hebrews 13:20-21, Now may the God of Peace who brought up our Lord Jesus from the dead, that great Shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, make you complete in every good work to do his will, working in you what is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen. Living a victorious as a single Christian requires making a commitment and vow to God. It won't just happen, you must make a conscious effort to do that which is pleasing in his sight. Without a committment, you will not want to, nor will you be able to fulfill your vows to Christ as a single woman. May you endeavour to gain the abundance of life that God had ordained for you. |