Hi guys and welcome once again .When I started my web page I wanted to do something different .First I thought of starting a numerology and astrology page . I started pirating different astrological and numerological reviews from different websites .But in the end the inner self gave me a red light. So in the end I came up with the idea of starting a web page in memory of the innevitable and inexhaustable dilemmas .

DILEMMA [di 'lem 'a] :- A situation requiring a choice between equally objectionable alternatives . The word dilemma here is not used in its technical term .I do not mean an insoluble problem , as it is explained in the phrase " two horns of dilemma ". One of which is bound to impale you if the other does not .I use it rather as referring to polarity or paradox . To be sure dilemmas can result in stalemate ,blockage ,anxious over-development of one side to escape the other. Hence the many disturbances problem .

Life my friend is full of dilemmas. Every moment we face dilemmas. Whether to talk or not, to hate him or not, to love or not, to have sex or not, to work or not, study now or not. Every thing you do has two sides to it. It's easy where you have some preferance to one side. But when you give importance to both sides it gets worse. You don't know what to do. " To do or not to do " is your dilemma.

You hereafter start thinking about different things that will happen if you do and if you don't. This will build up pressure inside you. Ultimately leading to a chaotic state where you can't think about anything else. This dangerous situation can lead you to a stalemate, emotional blockage, or a condition where you won't have any hatred or love towards anyone. But you woulde be insane. You won't be conscious of yourself anymore. And if you are not conscious of yourself you be better off dead.

Two type of people suffer from dilemmas first category are afraid of action. They prefer to suffer in their emotional virtual world but not in the present world. This can be because of some previous sad experience they had in their life. Subject is not aware that " because once it has happned it is not necessary that it should happen again ". There is a second category who are afraid of anxiety that results when you " act out ". If the subject is of a calm and and relaxed personality he tends to avoid anxiety or he seems it something not him (to be anxious that is). The subject of this kind is usually an introvert. Typically the subject is from a nuclear middle family.

How can you solve it? For first category subjects, they should be encouraged to get involved usually with others as they should make up their mind to act out instead of staying in their shell. They will eventually come to know that " if they stay in their shell too long they will turn nuts ". The second category subject has to learn that getting anxious once in a while is normal. To venture causes anxiety but not to venture is to lose oneself and to venture in the highest sense is precisely to be conscious of oneself. To be conscious of oneself is to "live in the present world ". When you are conscious of yourself you can act with awareness and only with this awareness you can move forward.

Anxiety according to psychologists is a better teacher than reality, for reality can be temporarly avoided whereas anxiety cannot. So all together according to me dilemma helps individuals growth to a mature person. Visualizing the two poles of facts helps to develop the outlook of the perso with respect to the world. But thinking alone will do you no good. In the next two pages some examples are sited. Two are from my experience ,one from my friend and the rest from the ghost of dilemma.Now don't be confused.... read on ..

. Note that in the end we overcome the dilemma by conscious action but not the consequences of our action ......