Not many  of  us have come to our current relationships without a few battle scars. Maybe you’ve been dumped  unceremoniously, or cheated one time or carried along  by someone  offering a magical illusion.  You may have even committed mistakes that destroyed or crippled a promising relationship. Affairs, desertions, and other calamities strike many of those around you. Maybe you’ve been spared, but likely, you’ve had your own horror stories. 

Yet you find yourself in another relationship. You wonder sometimes what is going on to hit this time around, or when it’s going to strike.  Sometimes, it seems you have happiness within reach, only to have it taken away again.

Where does all this worrying get you  though? It is really the future you should be spending so much time thinking  about, or would  it help you more if  you concentrated on where you are right now?  If  you look closely at your fears of the future, you can often see that you have many strong feelings leftover from past relationships. Maybe it’s time to find out why those feelings are there today, and see what lessons they are trying to teach you.

Try learn one small thing from a past bad experience, and see if it can help you find new ways of loving and new insights to happiness. Sometimes disasters contain miracles in disguise if you really search for them. That is the hardest part, but ultimately the most rewarding.