A year ago today, March 5, 1999, my
across the street neighbor's kids set out to a basketball game in
downtown Chicago with their maternal grandparents in a brand new Ford
Excursion. Grandpa was driving a little bit too fast and was
subsequently pulled over by the Indiana gendarme. What happened next is
totally unfathomable. But, unfortunately, too common and too
predictable.
My future-ex had called me at work to
tell me something was dreadfully wrong. The neighbor's kids mom had
rushed over with the youngest son and asked her to baby-sit because
there had been an emergency call. She happily obliged since her kids and
our kids are in each other's basements about as much as their own.
The future-ex though was watching on
television as the drama unfolded over the local news broadcast. Some
dumb fucking trucker was too fucked up to tell the breakdown lane wasn't
a driving lane and he ran right over the state trooper's car, the state
trooper, the Ford Excursion, and 12 year old C and his 9 year old
sister, her grandmother, and of course grandpa.
Little C, the trooper (a rookie), and
granpa were all dead. Of course the hero trucker fuck wasn't injured at
all. He was taken to the local hospital to see just what substances were
coursing through his cold blooded veins. It really was a good thing that
he killed a trooper or else they might have let him go at that point….
But that's another rant entirely.
I remember my introduction to Little C
the prior summer when he rang my doorbell to find out how much he could
get paid to de-toad my basement window wells. He'd been going through
the neighborhood looking for as many toads as he could anyway. His dad
told him he had to get permission first though before removing toads
from neighbor's property so, he being the little entrepreneur, decided
he may as well ask for money while he was there.
When I pointed out to him that I kind of
liked having toads in my window wells to keep the bugs under control he
then offered to sell me some of the ones that he'd caught -- of course
with
a huge grin. Little C was always
grinning.
But now -- he hung upside down by his
seatbelt as his little sister and grandma also hung trapped beside him
in the mangled SUV listening to him die -- for two hours. They were
there hanging when I drove home on the 80/90 on the other side as I sat
in utter horror knowing who was in that vehicle over there where all the
traffic was held up, where helicopters hovered, where lights flashed,
where I couldn't even tell what kind of cars had been involved.
That evening when I arrived home Little
C's little brother was still in my basement in Nintendo nirvana with my
two oldest ones. It wasn't until late in the evening when Big C came to
retrieve him. I knew the look on Big C's face. I'd seen it in the mirror
before. The look of a man who's lost his first-born son to a senseless
accident.
A few days later I had the pleasure of
clutching my 8 year old daughter at the funeral (above pic) as she tried
to comprehend the meaning of life and death. Did this happen because God
wanted Little C and Grandpa and a trooper to die that day? I just love
trying to answer questions like that.
No. This happened because we let it
happen. Because we have a surface transportation system that allows 80
ton vehicles to travel at seventy miles an hour on the same roadways
that passenger vehicles only weighing about a ton travel at the same
speeds. This happened because we put men and women behind the wheels of
these 80 ton trucks and tell them you have to get from point A to point
B as quickly as possible, and the more you drive the more you get.
There is a sensible alternative. Smaller
trucks. Smaller trucks that drive shorter distances. See trains were
made for hauling freight long distances. But we don't use them. We like
these big heavy trucks that cost us billions in road repairs every year
and untold number of deaths to passengers in passenger vehicles. We like
it that way for some reason. I don't.
Someone told me we have too mature a
system to change it. Bullshit. We can change anything we want. All we
have to do is make sure the people with the money keep it.