Dating: Why Laying a Strong Foundation is Important

Before the Aisle...

1.Does your relationship Glorify God? (1 Corinthians 6:19,20)

2.Does this relationship reflect God? (Genesis 1:25-27)

3.What foundations (biblical principles) was your courtship built on? (Hebrews 11:10; 1 Corinthians 3)

4.Is this relationship God-Centered or Self Centered?* (John 8:29)

5.What is your partner�s love language? What is yours? (See recommended text: 5 Love Languages)

6.Does my mate know who I really am? Do I know who my mate really is? What have we don't to get to know one another?

7.Are you growing in friendship, communications, courtship, fellowship, and romance?* (see recommended text: Boy Meets Girl)

8.Are we friends? If so, how do we define our friendship? Is this friendship healthy (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV)

9.Do I know who I am in Christ? Does my mate? (2 Corinthians 5:21)

10.Do our purposes line up with the will of God for our lives? (Philippians 2:2)

11.Are my mate and I clear on the biblical roles as a man and woman?*

12.Are others supportive of the relationship?*

13.Is sexual desire playing to big (to small) a part in your decision making?*

14.How do we handle confrontation as a couple?

15.How well do we communicate with each other?

16.Can I live with my mate�s faults? Can I love my mate for his/her faults?

17.Am I forgiving? Is my mate forgiving?

18.Are we sensitive to each other�s feeling and needs?

19.Am I ready mentally for marriage?

20.Do I want to get married? Do I want to marry this person?*

21.Why do I feel that this is the right person for me? Why do I want to marry this person?

**Food for thought: �Her eyes looked back into mine with soul depth.� (Boy Meets Girl, Joshua Harris) During this particular passage of the book the author depicts a conversation that Adam was having with his granddaughter Elanna about Eve; Adam was explaining to Elanna the �love story� of he and Eve. When reflecting on the line above does your courtship partner�s eyes look into yours with soul depth or is it lust of the flesh? (See 1 John 2:15-17)

Bonus: As God created Eve for Adam do you feel that this person is the one that God himself created for you? Why?

*Questions taken from Joshua Harris�s Boy Meets Girl.