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If your hook-him strategies are bombing in your face, shape up by bidding bye-bye to these flirting boo boos. By Leon Valenz | |||
| to do is listen. You'd be guilty of this if you're getting to know him gimmicks is to know the little details of his life from everyone else. No matter what | What's the flirting move that got you hooked? | |||
Animals know instinctively when and how to do things they do. Even though the mechanics and innuendoes of human survival are much more complex, we like to incorporate some of the more bestial practices. Not always a good thing -especially when it comes to flirting. Here are some animal moves that merit the repulsion, not attraction.
THE YAK If you talk and talk and talk, pretty soon all a man hears is static. Maybe you're trying to find a connection to evening, but it isn't going to work too well if you do all the yakking. Agreeing with the little that a man manages to insert into conversations is no winning style either. Now, I really don't mind people agreeing with me. However, if they do agree with me 100 percent of the time without contest, tangent, or insight, then I might as well go to the toilet and find a mirror. This could be because she's not listening a word I'm saying, or that she wants me to like her for all that she is. A good conversation is a great way to find out if you'll hit it off. To some extent, it could even be an end in itself, |
showing sincerity and mutual attraction at times. And there's nothing mutual about a monologue.
THE HYENA Closely related to the yak is the hyena-laughing at anything and everything. You might have the tendency to laugh at his good jokes, his bad jokes, and jokes designed mainly so he can get away from you (hint: Walk-out scenes and speeding cars figure well in these I gotta-get-away routines). Whether you giggle or cackle at his jokes about going to the bathroom to talk to himself, there's something wrong. Keep the mirth at a manageable level or he might think you're not paying attention: Some things are just not funny. Don't be too eager to show him that you dig him and his humor. If you're at a flirting level, an all-out guffaw over something inconsequential or even boring could backfire-you might strike your date shallow, or extremely insincere. THE MOLE The mole could be perceived as the opposite of the first two creatures. All it does or seems |
kind of kinky animal he might be, he doesn't like being sized up-in his absence. Blending in with
your surrounding or keeping a low profile is good in a way, but it shouldn't be used to disguise
intentions. You might think this is being demure and innocent, but from someone else's vantage point, you'd be a stalker. If you rely on gathered information from secondhand sources such as his friends, only to pounce on him with his favorite bottle of wine, reciting lines from all his favorite movies, you'd be making two things clear. One, that you're an excellent sleuth. Two, you're all wrong for him unless getting caught off guard turns him on.
Sly, side glances and clever comebacks work well but whatever you want to gain by flirting, it isn't enough to flaunt or flatter. Like all good flirts know, it's what, when, how much, and how you say it that's important. Like all predators know, it's about understanding the prey that ups the probability of catching one exponentially. Naturally, there's no room for assumption, only educated guesses. Instinct and practice are good things. Whoever you meet, mystery |   
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She made me laugh.
And all she had to
do was be sweet
and really caring.
She made me feel
good when I was
having a bad day by
just smiling at me. I
got totally hooked. -Dave Ortega, 29, structural engineer. She came right up to me and made the first move, saying "What's taking you so long?" -Carlo, 24, headturner I had to cut a great conversation short, but as I was leaving, she texted me, "I still wanted to talk to you but there was so little time." -Mendel, 20, student |
| goes both ways as does conversation. What a waste of an evening it would be if the attractive person next to you, doesn't have a clue how clever you are because you weren't being yourself. | ||||
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