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Sexual Sobriety in SA Here’s what the SA literature says about this. “What is a Sexaholic and
What is Sexual Sobriety “We can only speak for
ourselves. The specialized nature of Sexaholics
Anonymous can best be understood in terms of what we call the sexaholic. The sexaholic has taken himself or herself
out of the whole context of what is right or wrong. He or she has lost
control, no longer has the power of choice, and is not free to stop. Lust has
become an addiction. Our situation is like that of the alcoholic who can no
longer tolerate alcohol and must stop drinking altogether but is hooked and
cannot stop. So it is with the sexaholic, or sex
drunk, who can no longer tolerate lust but cannot stop. “Thus, for the sexaholic, any
form of sex with one’s self or with partners other than the spouse* is
progressively addictive and destructive. We also see that lust is the driving
force behind our sexual acting out, and true sobriety includes progressive
victory over lust. These conclusions were forced upon us in the crucible of
our experiences and recovery; we have no other options. But we have found
that acceptance of these facts is the key to a happy and joyous freedom we
could otherwise never know. “This will and should
discourage many inquirers who admit to sexual obsession or compulsion but who
simply want to control and enjoy it, much as the alcoholic would like to
control and enjoy drinking. Until we had been driven to the point of despair,
until we really wanted to stop but could not, we did not give ourselves to
this program of recovery. Sexaholics Anonymous is
for those who know they have no other option but to stop, and their own
enlightened self-interest must tell them this.” * In SA’s
sobriety definition the term “spouse” refers to one’s partner in a marriage
between a man and a women From pages 3-4 of Sexaholics Anonymous, copyright 1989-2008 SA Literature,
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