Dear SPL,

My name is J(...), a 13 year old girl. I have 3 sisters aged 12, 10 and 9 year. When we have been very naughty, we mostly get a good bare bottom spanking. Mom uses only her hand when she spanks us.

I am a cousin of E(...), who wrote to you in 2003 on 11 January, 26 January and 25 July. (see Reader's Feedback, July 2003) Our mothers are sisters and both are very strickt, as you will remenber from E(...). But we love our parents.

E(...) is now 18 years old and she is a very loving girl who I like very much. She did not get a spanking in the last 1.5 year. Until two month ago we lived so far from each other that we hardly saw each other. But now my family moved and I can now visit my cousin with only a 10 minutes walk. Like she a may use our uncle's computer for sending you this email. E(...) thought that I should tell you about what happened a year ago and she has helped me with my English. If I make some errors, she is to blame.

When we got a spanking from mom, our neighbours could hear te sound of slapping our bottom and our crying. As soon as their 14 year old son saw us, he always would tease the one, that got the spanking. One day my 2 youngest sisters (then 9 and 8 year) both got a bare bottom spanking and when they one hour later were in the garden he teased them in such a way, that the ran crying in our hous again. But this time his mother had seen and heard what he did and ordered him to go inside. Shortly after that we heard slapping sounds and we heard him scream and cry very loud and we understood that his mother spanked him. Half an hour later she came together with her son J(...) to us and then he had to apologise for teasing my sisters and he had to tell how he was punished bij his mother. Somewhat reluctantly and with tears in het eyes he told os that he had gotten a bare bottom spanking with a wooden hairbrush that took more than 10 minutes. Het promised us that he never more should tease us. Then his mother ordered him to stand in the corner of our livingroom and standing there she lowered his trousers and underpants and we all could see his very red and blue bottom as result of a very painful spanking. 2 minutes later he might rearrange his clothes and then he was sent home and should go to bed without dinner.

In my opinion het earned this spanking ( which I found was to harsh ) but I felt pity for him, having to bare his thorougly spanked bottom to be seen by us. He kept his promise and never teases us or other girls and boys again. It was the first time he got a spanking, but from then on he got a spanking when he was naughty. Happily the hairbrush was never used again. It seems rather curious, but in time we ( he and me ) became very good friends and the day we moved to our new house we tearfully said goodbye and we promised to write to each other in future, My mom ( who now also likes J(...) ) gave me permission to ask him to stay with us in the days between Christmas and New Year and he has accepted. He told me that he was now glad that he got that bare bottom spanking whitch in the end made that we are such goor friends now.

With love,

J(...) and E(...)

(from the Netherlands)
 

hello, my name is d(...), i wrote you a few months ago, but the notice on your site said to resend it. anyway, i read some of your readers feadback, and i found one that was identical to my dilemma.

im fifteen years old, and have a younger cousin named b(...). She's thirteen, and since she was eight, when she visits from scotland for the summer, we've had a little bedtime tradition where i'll read her a short story and then give her a little spanking over my lap. It was her suggestion, and it devoloped into a routine, and it has been like that ever since. anyway, this summer she came, and as soon as it was ten-ish that night, she grabbed my arm and led me to the spare bedroom. she said that she'd never end our 'tradition', and she said that since she is thirteen now she wanted the spanking to be "harder". she also produced what i presume was a novelty paddle, and asked me if i wouldn't mind using it just once. i told her to wait and i quickly consulted your site, and found that paddles sting alot even on a clothed bum. she nattered and nattered until i finally agreed. so i sat down on the bed, put her across my lap and paddled her. after her spanking she'd not cried at all, and she to my utter surprise took off her panties to show me my handiwork. her bum was cherry red, and i didn't use the paddle again. i dont know what she did with it. mid way through the summer, it was another spanking time, and she asked if her spanking could be bare bummed. i refused, and she cried. i didn't spank her for a week. she has e-mailed me, and hampered me for bare bum spanks next visit, which will be christmas. what should i do? i dont want to hurt her, but bedtime spankings have always been with her panties on, and i think that she used the paddle as a source of stimulation. what should i do? she e-mailed me again tonight! Please reply! PLEASE.
 

I believe a spanking on the bare buttocks, is a very effective way to punish a naughty boy or girl, The buttocks are the biggest most powerful muscles in the human body !

It's as though nature had spanking in mind when she designed them? They make a beautiful target.

Sincerely,
 

I am 19 and was spanked for my misbehaviour until I left school three years ago. This was with a slipper for which I had to bend over with my skirt up and touch my toes. I never objected to this believeing I should be punished if I was naughty. Since then mum has punished me by making me stay in but a few weeks ago she introduced a new punishment when I was very late getting home from a party. It was well after midnight and she said that I had to stay in for a whole week but in addition I was to be in bed by half-past nine. I asked her to consider spanking me again but she refused. It was a very long week but I have to admit that it was a suitable punishment. Mum has actually reconsidered my request to be spanked and has agreed to spank me again for a trial period. As yet she hasn't had to.
 

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I came across your web site about a week ago. And I think its great I wasn't spanked but twice my whole life for playing on the roof and lighting matches it was over the knee and bare bottomed by my dad my mother never did because her mother beat her bad when she was a kid so she couldn't bring herself to do it even outta love. I'll tell you it worked cause I never needed it after the 2nd time.

well I had temporary custody of my ex-best friends daughter due to the fact that her mothers new b-friend was abusing her daughter sexually. Her daughter is now nine and has never been spanked her whole life by anyone in her family. I have to say when she started misbehaving in school and at my home I was at a loss no other punishment was working time outs corner early bedtime no tv the works.

I talked to her therapist to get ideas but none of them worked but I asked her if it would be a bad idea to spank her due to the fact that she was sexually assaulted. The therapist told me that she could not recommend it do to her profession but because I asked her she told me its how she loved her children. Well, two days later I got a call from her school she was misbehaving and screaming at everybody. I left work to pick her up brought her home. when we got home she wouldn't tell me why she was doing the things she was doing not that there was a good reason.

Well, we talked for a little bit and couldn't agree on a punishment. So I decided on a spanking. She did not know what it was I told her she would soon learn. I stood her in front of me and pulled down her pants she looked at me puzzled I told her to pull down her underpants she wouldn't so I did when I put her over my knee she got the idea and freaked. I have to be honest I was scared because I've never given a spanking before I spanked her with my hand 8 times for her age she kicked and wiggled and cried. Not being pleased with the wiggling and getting kicked I put my hand on her bottom and explained that she would be getting another one for resisting the first spanking so i spend a few minutes with her still over my lap rubbing her bottom explaining that the disrespect is not acceptable and that I lover her and i cared and that i wouldn't spank her if i didn't love her then I gave her the rest of her spanking.

Then I told her that was her first but not her last and as long as she lived with me she will obey authority she shook her head and then to my surprise hugged me which she has never done before. that made me believe that I did the right thing. We just sat there and I held her and I did help her rub her bottom cause I wanted her first spanking to memorable all the smacks were equally hard.

Do you think its the right thing to do please let me know.

To let you know she has had quite a few over the next couple of days I think she was testing me but now she is getting As in school and I get better behavior at home even her therapist has taken her off her meds cause she didn't haveA.D.D she had no discipline before this. Oh she is now home, but her mother is having a hard time controlling her cause she wont spank do to the fear of the department of social services intervening. So we agreed that I would do the spankings. and its starting to work again now she knows that even though she don't live with me she cant be disrespectful to her mother or others.

Please feel free to post my email address.

(In another mail dated December 18, 2004:)

Hi I'm just sending a short response from your reply while it is not illegal to spank your children in this state she has had the department of social services called because of her daughters behavior they don't approve of the spankings but they cant not allow her to do so , me ex-best friend has decided to be a responsible loving mother and is now spanking her own daughter and she is pleased with its turnout. the only down fall is that she makes empty threats to spank shell say she is gonna spank her but then doesn't I don't find that to be too productive. If you would like to post this you are more than welcome.
 

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I read your chapter re play-spankings with interest. Birthday spankings are not part of the UK tradition (which i think is a pity) but I was brought up with play-spankings and have done the same with my children. These varied from the playful pat ot two on a bottom "in passing" (the most frequent..it would have been a sad day not to have got or given a few of these) to the ones where I was pulled across a lap and smacked gently. These were usually accompanied with a mock "telling off" and often followed a rough 'n tumble or tickling session. Perhaps the most memorable (but least frequent) were the bedtime ones where pyjamas would come down and the playful bit would be joined with a not-quite-so playful "reminder". Stll not painful but definitely including a "message".

If you wish to leave my email address in I would be delighted to converse with other parents regarding both playful spankings and spankings for discipline.

regards

Sean O'Donovan

(From the UK)
 

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Hi, I love your website, got some great ideas there! I am a dad of 44 and here is my situation!

We have teenagers, never a dull moment and the hairbrush gets quite a workout.

Our children are: E(...) 17, B(...) 15 and D(...) 13. B(...) hates to be spanked by my wife Betty as is certainly understandable. Luckily, he is kind of on the small side at 5 5 and 125 lbs and my wife has no problem putting him over her knee! several of the childrens friends are spanked in a similar manner as we have friends with many other parents whose children go over the parental knee, so when they give us that old line 'None of my friends are still spanked' we know that it is just not true.

I was spanked over both parents knee to 15 and then just dad to 18. It was embarrassing, but I deserved most of them and it did make me a better person. My wife was spanked over her Mom's knee to almost 19 as were her six younger brothers and sisters. Her Father did most of the spankings for the boys, but Mom did the girls until they left. Once guilt has been ascertained, it was justice time and that always meant a good sound bare bottom spanking, or as Grandma said 'a good licking' I had three older brothers and Dad spanked them and me usually with mom's hairbrush or for very serious offenses, we were strapped over his sawhorse in the basmentbut this was rare and reserved for major violations such as smoking.

As far as techniques go, I just cannot over emphasize the importance of three facets of a good spanking especially during those teenage years; always explain to them why they are getting a spanking, put them over the knee and lastly the parent should do any undressing of the child. By undressing the child, this removes any control that he may have left and usually totally demoralizes him or her. We usually spank bare bottom only and remove all clothing below the waist. Even sometimes today, B(...) will start crying when we begin taking down his pants. If we feel the infraction warrants it, they will be stripped completely, but this is very rare, but want the child to realize that this is a possibility. We both try to be present but that cannot always be the case! Were you spanked growing up ? Here is a spanking that E(...) got just Saturday morning!

She came home at 1:00 AM, Saturday morning, an hour past her curfew. We decided we didn't want to wake up the neighborhood, so my wife told her we would deal with it in the morning, which we did! She was still pretending to be asleep at 10:00 am when I told her if she weren't downtairs in her PJ's in ten minutes, I would give her a good strapping over my workbench in the basement; needless, to say she was down in the allotted time with all kinds of apologies, excuses and downright begging when she realized she was going to get a spanking!

We read the riot act to her and informed my 17 yr old Miss Smarty Pants that she was going to get a good spanking from her mom! Next, my wife pulled a straight backed kitchen chair to the center of the room and seated herself in it. The hairbrush was already on the kitchen table when my wife took off her pj bottoms and pulled her panties down to her ankles She was desperately trying to cover up her pubic area from my view but Betty told her to stop or she would be strapped by me after the spanking. E(...) is quite petite; about 5 2 and 103 lbs and still fits nicely over our laps at 17! My wife then grabbed her right wrist with her left hand and proceeded to give her quite a severe scolding forcing the recalcitrant child to look my wife directly in the eye while my wife would take darting glances at her pubic area. The tears, pleading and apologies were coming fast and furious at this point and after a few minutes of the scolding, my wife dragged her over her lap adjusting her buttocks the way she wanted them! Then the spanking commenced!! Betty gave her about 10 good hard cracks alternating buttocks with her hand. Which produced alot of begging and crocodile tears, but no real evidence of contrition! Next, I handed Betty the hairbrush and after about 8 cracks with the brush, the real tears were flowing freely. Soon she was kicking wildly and forgetting all about her modesty as we saw everything - much to her chagrin! Finally, after about 7 or 8 minutes of steady spanking, our Miss Smarty pants, was reduced to a sobbing, apologetic very contrite young lady! My daughters and B(...) too always revert to calling us Mommy and Daddy again towards the end of a good spanking! After the spanking, Betty stood her up and she apologized and she got a hug from us and then was stood in the corner of the kitchen toes and nipples touching wall and hands over her head. She knows that if she touches her inflamed cheeks, she will go back across the knee! After 30 minutes in the corner, E(...) was then sent to bed for the remainder of the day! My wife is 5' 8' and and about 150 lbs and can still handle all three with ease, especially B(...). Mom will continue to spank him. Some of his friends know B(...) is spanked by her which is just the most humiliating thing there is to a teenage boy. I know from experience! B(...) has begged us not to turn him over our knee for his spankings, which of course we will not do! It is such a juvenile position and teens look so silly over the parental lap with thir bare bottoms so exposed right under their parents noses and they will get it that way until they leave, just as I did! We do not spank in public but any of the five of us may witness a spanking if they are home as we feel this does heighen the effect of the entire discipliniary experience. We have spanked them since they were about four years old and we strongly disagree with some of the letters here about parents administering their childs first spanking after the age of 12; it is far too late to begin spanking them at that age we feel!

E(...) will be 18 in February and is a senior in High School and knows she will be spanked as long as she lives under our roof! Age does not matter as no one is above a good bare bottom spanking. B(...) is spanked about once a month, E(...) usually once every two months and D(...) every two weeks about. We try to split the spankings to be fair. B(...) would much rather me spank him than Betty because of the embarrassment and E(...) of course would much prefer Betty to spank her. Rainy weekends are the worst with all three of them home and they get more frequent spankings in that situation and also the summer! I think E(...) will be minding her Ps and Qs since she was tanned Saturday. I last spanked E(...) about four months ago for talking back and she begged my wife to spank her and not me, but of course I spanked her. It was over my knee bare bottom with the hairbrush as usual. The opposite is true with B(...); he begs me to spank him and not his Mom even though it hurts more; I guess it it is more manly if I spank him! E(...) is still upset at my wife and barely manages a 'hello' since her spanking! D(...) just turned 13 and really getting mouthy, asserting her new found adolescent independence and finds her bare behind over our knee quite frequently. Last week one day, Betty came home from work and was exhausted and D(...) kept pestering her to go out with her friends to a concert in Asbury Park which is not a good area up here. We told her an emphatic no but she kept badgering and finally I took down her jeans and panties to her ankles and put her over my knee for a good spanking. I only used my hand as It is still effective on a 13 year olds bare behind and besides, I was too lazy to go and get the hairbrush. All three are spanked with an old fashioned wooden hairbrush. My E-Mail Address is [email protected] - Love to hear from anyone! John

(in another mail dated October 22, 2004:)

Hi, You have a good website but I just can't believe some of the long winded rituals that parents go through when administering a spanking. We have a boy 14 and girls 12 & 16 and they are all subject to spankings over our knee on the bare behind with hand and/or hairbrush. Once guilt has been determined and that a spanking is on order, it is administered! The childs pants and underwear are taken down to their ankles and they are scolded and then turned over my wife's or my knee for their spanking! We feel that is very important to put them over our knee as this is such a childish position and they do not like it. Then they get 15 to 30 minutes in the corner with pants still down facing the wall and then are hugged and we tell them we love them and it is over! Also, the child realizes that they will be spanked until they leave as my wife and I were but the spankings are becoming fewer and fewer as they age so we realize it is an effective form of discipline if it is not done too frequently. I welcome any responses from readers and my E-Mail address is: [email protected]

Thank You and Bottoms up - John
 

Hi,

I am 13 years old. My parents have never spanked me but sometimes I feel that I need a spanking. If i am naughty I get yelled at but never grounded. I sometimes push them to the limit just to see what will happen. I want to be spanked when I am bad, as I believe that it would make me feel better. I have no idea what to do.
 

Dear Sir,

I want to ask you and your readers about disciplining myself, because I don't know anyone else that would know about it or talk about it. Please leave my address public so people can contact me.

(Note: the address is anonymized despite the request because the sender is under the age of 16.)

I don't ever get spanked at home, but I think maybe I should. I'm not super-bad or anything, but sometimes I misbehave, and I think sometimes me and my mum would get closer if she disciplined me in this way (my dad's not with us anymore).

I was wondering if you had any advice on how we should do it etc. I think over her lap would be best, but I don't know how to ask. I'm 15 which I know is a bit old to be spanked, or is it? And I think on the bare bum is better but I feel a bit embarrassed and I don't know if it would hurt.

what position do you think we should do it and how should I ask her? I don't want her to use an object like a hairbrush, just her hand I think is best. please help me cos I don't know anyone else to ask!

thanks,
 

Hi,

I know the website asks for no more response but this is repeat from over the summer.(please don't show my name and email address if this is posted)

My name is A(...) and I am eightteen years old. (I still feel like a child and I really don't think that anyone my age is really an adult yet either.) I am in my first year of college still living at home. I still get spankings when I misbehave and they work much better than other punishments. I will be living at home until 22 and I think my parents plan to spank me until I move out of their house. This doesn't really bother me because spanking works for me. My question and consern is if that is too old for a spanking? I don't think so if it works. Should you still use over the knee, hand spankings for a young women? I have another question that I have been thinking about for a long time. What do you think about husbands spanking their wives? I've been thinking that I may still need spankings after I get married (years from now) how would I ask my husband that? Maybe you should ask for suggestions for the website for that. Please Email Back

Thank You

A(...)
 

Hi

I saw on your website that you say not many peopel ever get smacked with the flyswatter but I think it's really common for you to get smacked with it in Australia cuz if my Mum reckons I've been naughty, she ALWAYS smacks me with it on my bottum and I know a lot of my mates get smacked on the bum with the flyswatter by their Mums too!!!!!!

And it really hurts you a LOT when you get it as well!!!

Ok that's all I wanted to say

(from Australia)
 

Hi. I've been reading your site and I think it has been good for me and my past experience. In your letter section, I wanted to email one of your letter senders that's email address was provided, but it is not working. Maybe you listed it wrong. I wanted to send this attached email to the lady who sent you a response on 10-3-03 ([email protected]). Please forward my email to her if possible. Also, please respond to my attached email if you want to.

D(...)

Lady, I am a 20 years old and live in Cleveland, Ohio where the vice presidential debate is going on tonight. I was on the net and learned about the SWL site. That was about a week ago. I read your letter and you remind me of a lady I had on my paper route in 1999 named Ms. C(...). She liked me and was always giving me cokes and stuff, and paid me to cut her grass. One day, she had me uproot all these roses by her garage. When I was done, she acted like I did it just to be mean. She told me those roses cost alot of money. I told her she told me to do it and called her a name and I was almost crying. She started treating me like a two year old and said I needed a spanking. I guess I was shocked or something because I didn't give much fuss. She brought me into the livingroom where one of her older lady friends (who is weird) was sitting. She calmed me down and they both talked about how they were able to take spankings without crying much when they were kids. Ms. C(...) explained that a good spanking is given over the lap with the hand on the bare rear end. She was dressed in a work outfit of pleated skirt and blouse and sat down on the couch. She had me lay over her lap with my shorts and tank top on. She then had me lift up and she pulled down my shorts and underwear to my knees. The other lady was getting on my nerves bringing up all kinds of little stuff I did in the past and saying over and over I needed a lesson. Ms. C(...) then gave me a spanking. As soon as I thought she was finished spanking me, she kept having me adjust my position, and even had me lift up off her lap entirely so she could adjust her skirt. Then I had to lay back down over her lap. She must of spanked me over 40 times. For some strange reason I was actually relaxed by the time she did finish and was not figiting anymore, but had tears in my eyes. We talked about me still getting to cut her lawn and deliver her paper. She then had the other lady bring in some lotion and they rubbed into my rear and then my legs and back, like I was getting a massage. I told her I was sorry about her roses and the name I called her. I really did learn a lesson about respecting people, especially ladies. She helped me pull up my shorts while still over her lap and I ended up leaving with a warm feeling inside (and unfortunatly outside!!!) She never told my mom or my route manager. That's all for now, I just wanted to tell you my story and let you know I liked your letter.

Respectfully,
 

I'm 14 and i feel i need to be spanked. I have never been spanked before and i know that my parents are anti-spanking. But i have been reading my bible lately and it recomends spanking and says all sorts of stuff how if you're not spanked you will go to hell etc. Now i don't necesserily take all that literally, but i feel i should be spanked, but i have no idea how to bring up the topic in conversation or approach my parents about it.
 

Note: For background, see this sender's mail from September 2, 2004.

Dear SWL

Sorry it has taken so long to get back to you. I have had a lot of work to do and our agreement was handwritten so I had to find the time to type it up.

My Mum and Dad are most concerned that our family name is not published because as you can see it is unusual and would easily identify us.

I made a few small changes to the wording of the original because it was written by the three of us together and one or two bits didn’t read very well. I hope it is of some use to you. I have still only had the one warning spanking that’s good isn’t it!

Please follow this link to read Jo’s Agreement with Mum and Dad