Each year over 15
million new cases of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are diagnosed
and reported. Roughly half of all new STD cases happen in the 15 to
24-year-age range; so is your child a statistic?
The best way to find out if your teenager is sexually
active is simply to ask them. You might be shocked at the response you
get. Many teens are sexually active or are being pressured to become so,
and they really want a grown up to talk to.
If that is not the case in your house, ask anyway. A
mother can usually tell when her child isn't being entirely truthful.
Believe it or not, your teenager really wants you to ask, even if he or
she doesn’t act like it.
Remember, parents are the first and last line of
defense in their children's lives. When parents fail to establish clear
boundaries and rules for their children’s behavior and safety, they leave
the door open for disaster.
So the best way to protect your children from STDs,
teenage pregnancies or the guilt and depression that is common when teens
become sexually active is by teaching them that their worth as persons is
not determined by their level of premarital sexual activity. As obvious as
it seems, your children need to hear it from you.
Back when I was a teen twenty five years ago, kids felt
extraordinary pressure to have premarital sex. Peers groups made teens
feel unaccepted and unworthy if they weren't
sexually experienced by the
time their teenage years ended. The fact is nothing has changed. It's
still that way today for your teen. Even more so, thanks to the messages
our children receive everyday in the media.
We would all like to believe that the epidemic of
sexually transmitted diseases has dissuaded teens from premarital sex, yet
statistics show that not to be the case.
Research demonstrated that the number of sexually
active teenage girls has quadrupled in the last 50 years! Over that same
period, the average age at which girls first engaged in sex dropped from
19 to 15. In the 1950s, only one of every ten teenage girls was sexually
active. But by the year 2000, one of every two teenage girls had
premarital sex.
Researchers point to teenagers' lowered feelings of
guilt and growing acceptance of premarital sex as the major causes of
increased sexual behavior. We can only blame the 'sexualzation' of our
children in the media for this change.
Of course there is no foolproof way to know if your
teenager is sexually active — only a medical expert can know for sure. So
just ask your teenager if you aren't sure.
The most visible indicators of sexual activity on the
part of your teen are often the emotional signs.
If a teen suddenly withdraws from family life, or if
they've become more secretive, defensive, or aggressive when you try to
talk about it, it's a good indication that your teen is sexually active.
On the flip side, some teens (particularly girls) may
start dressing inappropriately and clearly crossing the boundaries of
acceptable behavior in public.
The real danger is that a sexually active teen is more
likely to start drinking, smoking, and using drugs. Any sign of these
related activities should alert you to the possibility that your teen is
sexually active.
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Out!
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