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How to help a
friend
Most rape victims are suffering from PTSD which makes
them extremely dissoriented. At this stage they may do
or say things which don't seem to make sense. They are
often unable to function on a level at which they can help
themselves.
It is crucial that those around them educate
themselves to recognize the symptoms and help them get
treatment. The links below will help you begin to
understand and help your loved ones.
How to help a friend- basic information
What can you expect after a person has been raped?
In
most cases these symptoms prevent rape victims from
functioning at full capacity and helping themselves.
It’s important at this time for others to give their support
and help protect them.
How to help rape victims and the stages of trauma.
This site was recommended by the founder of hope for
healing (on a message board) with the advice that you can also
order a paper copy.
RAINN how to help rape victims. How can I help a friend
who has been sexually assaulted?
Understanding Rape
This site is an excellent source of objective information
on rape. It has a focus on date rape but gives a good
over view. The format is that of a pathfinder.
"Rape
is a complex experience. The therapist, of a survivor of rape,
should be aware of different factors that shape the survivor’s
experience. However, the therapist must not only view the
survivor in the context of the individual, but also in the
context of community. It is an injustice to survivors,
to not become aware of the societal and experiential
determinants that shape the reactions of a survivor."
What not to say to a rape victim.
Rape prevention- contains links to several sites with
suggestions and information.
The following sites were researched after I came to the
conclusion that no one is going to listen if we say "stop
raping" to a bunch of grown adults. The change needs to
occur in childhood. Kids need to learn that over
powering people smaller than you isn't cool it's
pathetic. These sites help parents teach children
respect for women (the opposite of what they are currently
learning). The audio samples are particularly
interesting. They are public service announcements you
can download and play for your kids.
End Abuse Campaigns: Reaching Men Coaching Boys into
Men Boys are swamped with influences outside of the home –
from friends, the neighborhood, television, the internet,
music, the movies… everything they see around them. They hear
all kinds of messages about what it means to “be a man” – that
they have to be tough and in control. There are numerous
conflicting and some harmful messages being given to boys
about what constitutes “being a man” in a relationship. So
teach boys early, and teach them often, that there is no place
for violence in a relationship. http://endabuse.org/programs/printable/display.php3?DocID=9902audio
for endabuse adds to train boys not to abuse women.
program on rape education on middle and high
schools
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