// Dear Dad...Letters to An Abuser\\
Dear S.O.T.E:
Well, it's been a little over a year since I last spoke to you, and I'm at the point where I can finally express my feelings for you...to you.
Let me start off by saying this: Respect isn't given, it's earned. Secondly, respect isn't a right, it's a priviledge. You have done nothing to earn my respect. Nothing to earn "admiration" or the like. In fact, you've gained nothing but disdain, utter dislike, and loathing.
Over the years I've watched you screw up every child you've so called "parented". I've watched you screw up every woman you claim to "love". I've watched you verbally, and emotionally abuse those closest to you. When I look at you S.O.T.E, I don't see a "Dad". I don't see a "Man". What I do see? Is a self-centered, self-absorbed, egotistical, morally & ethically deficient monster. I'm ashamed to be known as your daughter. Your heartless. Without conscience, and with your own damn agenda. I don't know what I was thinking, when I let you be a part of Punkin's life. Wait...I WASN'T THINKING! as I was living with an abusive alcoholic man. That man was you.
It's ironic. How you demean people who parent their children out of fear, intimidation, and guilt. Yet in your eyes, it's acceptable for you to parent that way. Weird.
I've grown over the last year S.O.T.E. With every time I see you...I get stronger, more confident. You can't control myself, or my life with fear anymore. I have my power back. More than you realize.
As I sit here writing this, I hold everything you hold dear in the palm of my hand. Your job, your financial security...all of it. I'll leave it at that.
In terms of MY son - you messed with the wrong child (and Mother). Did you happen to forget I'm my Mother's Daughter? "Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn" sweetheart. I've always made it clear to you if anyone messed with my son they'd be in deep trouble. Did you honestly expect to be an exception to that rule? Not friggen likely!
I can't believe you screwed with him in the way that you did. What you did to my baby! The threats you used, in your futile attempt to silence him. It's uncomprehensible. You should be on the other side of the glass. Let your co-workers and patients see you for the animal that you are!
However, you did not succeed in destroying my sons' spirit. That - you could never destroy. Just as you haven't succeeded in destroying mine, or the 2 other children you so called "parented".
We're all survivors. Strong, and unscathed by your animalistic behavior. What goes around comes around S.O.T.E. Karma is a beautiful thing.