COMMON TRAPS
That People Fall Into and How to Set Yourself FreeHave you ever read a book that helped to
change your life ? And have you found yourself re-reading a
book like that again and again ?
Well, I have and still do.
All throughout my Life, as well as through my Career
helping others I have followed certain signs and
signals------my Intuition and Instincts helping to Guide me
to what is Best. Sometimes this comes in the form of
reading a certain book or re-reading certain books that
have helped me in the Past.
One of those books is something I have used to help many
people get out of their problems and so I have re-read it
again recently and felt it deserved some credit on my
sites.
Harry Browne's "How I
Found Freedom in an Unfree World" is such a book ( out of print and costing
upward of 200 dollars the last time I checked on-line )
Basically, there are certain Traps that people fall into
and although I use Hypnosis, NLP, EFT, Energy work and
Shamanism to help Guide Clients out of their own Traps I
like the book and will use it as a basis to describe more
clearly what I can do to help you. So with that in
mind, here are some of the
more Common Traps which I have found and helped people get
out of.
( not necessarily
the traps of the author of the above mentioned book
)
And You can BE FREE TOO
!
* PEOPLE PLEASING
TRAP:
Do you ever find yourself agreeing to do something that you
really don't want to do ? Yet something compels you to do
it anyway ?
Do you care TOO much about what others think of you ? Does
someone ELSE's opinion count more than your own ?
Are you plagued by worries about others thought of your
performance ? At work ? In your Personal Life ? Did I proof
read this well enough or will someone find a spelling or
grammatical error ( Humor and Hypnosis actually have their
own language which does not always follow grammatical rules
;)
What would it be like to TAKE
BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE NOW
!!!! And Lead the kind
of Life you were Meant to Live
instead of feeling the Sweaty Brow that can come from the
Heavy Pressure of Watchful Eyes upon you.
Are you always having to Perform and be Judged Harshly
under those Sharp Eyes and Bright Lights ? Do the
Cutting Words of Criticisms
Bite Bitterly into your Flesh and Deafen your Ears to
Alternatives ?
Or do you WANT to BE FREE from these un-realistic
and un-rewarding expectations and book some Sessions
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or contact me at
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* WORRYING
TRAP :
Did you know that some people worry about every little
thing ? Do you know anyone like this ? Maybe you are a bit
like this ?
Also, did you realize
that 90% of what people
worry about will NEVER occur !? Isn't it silly to put so much
Time and Energy and Effort into avoiding something that
will NOT happen !?
Wouldn't it make more sense and feel more right to
FOCUS on
what you can actually change and do something about
!?
Also consider this-------Worry can lead to
VERY SERIOUS HEALTH
ISSUES and the
Good News is that
this IS something you can help avoid by learning
to Ease
your Mind and to Relax your Body.
Hypnosis
and other
modalities that I use can help you tremendously in
letting
go of Stress and Strain and simply
Living
a more Rewarding and Fulfilling
Life.
FREE
YOURSELF from WORRY by
scheduling sessions with me NOW.
Call (
917 ) 623-2352
* HERO TRAP
:
Do you ALWAYS
seem to be the one who has
to SAVE the WORLD
??? And what about the
times when you actually do something
to help and save others--------are they Grateful ? Or
do they feel you are meddling or that you really did not
help or that they did not really need saving in the first
place. Well we know better, right ? Or maybe we
are Judging their situation and where they are in their
lives and feeling they need help when in fact it is
probably none of our Business. You may have played
this ROLE
in your FAMILY
( see Family
Issues ) and now
you have trouble leaving it in the Past and so far too
often you strap that Shield to your Arm and Wield that
Sharp and Pointy Sword and head out to Slay some Dragon or
other...
Shouldn't you get the Praise you
Deserve ? And
get to enjoy the Appreciation from others when you help out
and are there for them ?
Of Course you Should and you will once you start to realize
how to BE
more SELECTIVE in the Battles that you
Fight.
Choose
Wisely and Win ! So instead of
hearing un-grateful complaints from people whom you've
helped, at much time and energy and expense to
yourself. You get to Bask
in the Afterglow of Sweet Victory !
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* PERFECTIONISM
TRAP:
Are you the ONLY person who can every do anything right ?
And does it take you forever and a day to finally settle on
what you did
and even then, when it is way beyond anyone's hopes or
expectations, you still moan and complain that you didn't
have more time to
REALLY get it right ? This is a curse because there
will NEVER be enough time or energy or effort to possibly
make things good enough because YOUR
STANDARDS are
totally UN-REALISTIC
and so you will
constantly
be chasing after a Dream.
This Curse of
Perfectionism would be
the flip side of the PEOPLE PLEASING
TRAP
because YOU become your own WORST ENEMY
and are the Judge, Jury, etc.
and you only have yourself to take to court to defend you.
And you probably remember the old story about this right ?
A person who is
their own Lawyer, has a Fool for a
Client. And
you are NOT a Fool so Decide
for
yourself NOW
to INVEST in Your LIFE and Call to Schedule and
Appointment (
917 ) 623-2352
* LABEL TRAPS
:
Here I mix a few of Harry Browne's categories or Traps
because this is what I see very often in my Hypnosis
Practice.
People have an IDENTITY
and even though it is just
a LABEL that
makes things convenient it is NOT who they really are.
You are NOT your job or
your Career! You are NOT who you are in relation to
your Family or Spouse or Friends or Political Party
or Religious affiliation, etc.
You are not just the owner of your House or the renter
of your Apartment or the driver of your Car.
YOU
ARE A HUMAN BEING with all the
AMAZING
POTENTIAL.
IMAGINE
the POSSIBILITIES...
You are NOT "shy"
! You do NOT have " low self
esteem " Yet, everyday I
hear people Call Me and talk with me and tell me these
things. Or they Come See Me and tell me that someone
said they were "X"
Often the
first part of helping someone get out of their particular
Traps
is to Realize what has been happening.
However, in order to do this you may have to confront some
old "demons"
and deal with how those
people in your life may see you now that
you are changing and improving your life.
For some this is simply too
difficult and so they would rather just stay stuck in their
previous
Trap. They would rather keep the old LABELS and
"false
Identity" because it is easier, more familiar and
because they have so much ALREADY
INVESTED in their old LABELS.
For instance, one client told me over the phone that he
almost did not come in for his 2nd session because he
looked at a huge
box of books, tapes, CD's and DVD's that he had already
purchased to deal with his "shyness and
low self esteem
"
Then he came to
his senses, came in for his
2nd
session and was already on
the Path
to a New and Better Life.
Two more
sessions and he was
INCREDIBLY
CONFIDENT, which is still just
a LABEL,
yet one that
is Helpful and
was now Totally
Accurate and Empowering to him.
He is still feeling
better and better...
This back
sliding
issue is VERY SAD and so you need to ask yourself if you
are WILLING
to CHANGE.
Some people simply do not feel they are worth the time and
effort and energy to make changes in their lives and they
tend to
be right. They are unwilling or unable to make changes and
so they sabotage any effort that I or anyone
makes on their behalf. ( and since I am Human,
with human
faults I have FREED
MYSELF from several of these Traps )
including rescuing those who do not want to be
saved--------When a large Ship sinks
and there are
only so
many Life Boats you
do not waste
PRECIOUS TIME and RESOURCES on those who
insist on drowning------Instead you
FOCUS
on SAVING YOURSELF and those around you who are
willing and able to SURVIVE
and
even FLOURISH in their LIVES.
Are you a SURVIVOR
? Then
Call
and we will
work together
to help you to improve your
life!
Are you willing to give up the Past Labels and
BE
YOUR BEST SELF
!
Can you handle how others will see you and how they respond
when they Notice
the Powerful Changes in You.
Some people have too much Invested in their
"old ways, habits
and self image "
and will not become non-smokers,
or
lose
weight, or manage stress, or deal with fears and ease
phobias. They remain stuck because
they feel they already invested so much time and effort and
energy into this that it would be a shame to change and
throw all that away. Their helpless
Attitude is
a shame, if you ask me.
To them I just breath a sigh and move on to help those
that WANT
and NEED HELP
and have the
UNDERSTANDING
to come
to me to
get
help and the
DESERVEDNESS
to INVEST in THEMSELVES in order to LIVE a
BETTER LIFE.
FREE
YOURSELF from your old LABELS, TRAPS and
PRISONS NOW by writing
[email protected]
( 917
) 623-2352
Also, simply because you don't know anyone who has gone to
a Hypnotherapy or Hypnotist does not mean anything because
as long as you
have the Right ATTITUDE of I like this and I KNOW
it's going to work!
then you can get the
help you
want and Need. NOW !
Otherwise you are just falling into the Group Trap, which
seems like it would make things easier and yet in reality
usually means
that someone does more work or pays more money or gets more
of what they want than the rest in the group.
This is true ( no one is watching, you can admit it :) for
Vacations, trips, etc. If you give in to what the
Group wants or what you figure is best it is more likely
that you are settling.
This can happen at work or in your Private life. Do
you compare yourself with your friends ? With your
colleagues ?
What if you were to have
the right attitude and focus on yourself and what you can
do to improve your life ! That is usually the
SECRET
that will get you whatever you want in life.
It is also the
SECRET
that hides in plain sight because
we ALL know this and yet it seems to difficult and so few
of us every do it.
So if you like to hide within a group and just
"fit
in" without
rocking the boat then that is fine, yet I will not be the
one helping you
until your attitude feels right to me because
I don't
want to take your money and be yet another person you
failed with.
One of my mentors ( Mark Cunningham at
trucor.com
) jokes something like this :
"The
only reason you came to see me is because you've gone to
see everyone else and failed
and since you couldn't find witch doctor in the phone book
or Internet, you
finally came to the one person who could help you in the
first place, a HYPNOTIST."
And as funny as this is, it is also
VERY
TRUE because if
you knew WHY you were "messed up"
then you would probably do
something
to help
yourself. That
is if you felt you Deserved to be helped or to help
yourself.
So many of the modalities like Psychotherapy and
Counseling mean well
and yet often times they deal too much with the
Conscious Mind, which is Rational. While
most of
our real issues come from the more PRIMITIVE
BRAIN.
I use many of the same techniques as
Psychotherapy and Counseling
yet
usually within
TRANCE which
allows for the
changes to happen more naturally and easily and with less
Skeptism and Self Criticism.
While, many if not MOST of the HABITS
we have become have
their FOUNDATION below the
Conscious Mind-----in
the
OTHER
THAN CONSCIOUS MIND------the Sub-Conscious
Mind is REALLY in
CHARGE of what is
happening and what you do, how to act, react, etc.
We learn new skills
and then they
become
AUTOMATIC like driving
a car or riding a bike. Even after years you can
still get on a bicycle and ride once you learned how
to.
However, at first
it was probably a test of
balance, patience and you probably had some help
from a parent, caretaker,
sibling or friend.
They were there to hold on to the back of the
bike
so that you would not fall as
you learned to pedal and steer. Learning to
negotiate things around you and to gauge speed and
distance.
It is similar with driving
a car------at first
you had so many steps to consider and keep track of and
juggle. Sit down, put key in ignition,
turn key, put car into drive, ( stick shift is even more
difficult for most... )
And yet, for those who have learned to drive it has become
a habit------after some time you were probably driving
around with the
window down and the wind blowing in your hair as you sang
along with your favorite songs on the radio, while
noticing traffic and following the rules of the road and
safely driving.
You could
not
Consciously pay attention to everything going on
and so Your UnConscious
Mind
has made much of these
skills REFLEXIVE------you
see a car and you steer or slow down or speed up
accordingly.
For those of you who don't drive, you probably had similar
experience with learning Public
Transportation----what
Train, Subway, Ferry or Bus would get you to
your
Destination. Which
ones run Local and which are Express.
And after getting lost a few times and learning when to
switch to a local, etc. you got the hang of it and had a
good idea of how
much time you needed to get to where you needed to
go.
You probably had
someone help you to do
this at first. Or at least you had the intelligence to ask
and get a Map and learn to read it
and after some Experience
you learned to
negotiate Mass
Transit. ( and to deal
with the traffic jambs and construction detours, etc. )
We
are walking, talking, driving, and living collection of
HABITS-------habits can be good, bad or simply ones that
serve a purpose.
Much like chairs-------you
can sit in an Incredibly
Comfortable fully supporting
Recliner
or a rickety old
chair that will fall apart from your
weight, or
a simple folding chair
that serves its purpose and allows you to sit
and yet is not as comfortable
as the expensive recliner.
The same is true for cars-------some will get you
there in style
and comfort and will usually cost
more, while
some will break down on
the highway and leave you stranded and
stressed, and
most will
simply help you to get
from point A to point B and to do some traveling and
shopping, and chores, etc.
Some feel the need to impress and MUST have an expensive
fancy car while others almost feel they need to do the
opposite and drive
the oldest heap on the road. If you HAVE to do this
to PROVE a POINT then you probably have some issues to work
out,
either on your own or with someone or with Me,
[email protected]
And with Relationships
this can also be the
case------some feel they NEED to fill a hole
in their sole
and of course NO PERSON or PRODUCT will do this-------there
are People and Products which can help you to HEAL that
WOUND and
FEEL more WHOLE and COMPLETE
as a HUMAN BEING.
And a WHOLE and COMPLETE HUMAN
BEING does not need to over eat, over shop, over
drink, over spend, abuse gambling,
smoke or abuse their bodies or minds in various other
ways.
They don't need to date everyone they meet in order
to "find their
other half"
or
to have sex with everyone they see or to
make more
money than anyone
else, just so that they can feel worth
something.
They don't need to seek Approval or
Validation from others because they have
HEALTHY
SELF ESTEEM not "others
esteem"
This NEEDS to
COME FROM WITHIN
YOU and this
comes from
YOU
first HEALING this HOLE in Your
SOLE instead of merely "trying" to FILL this
BOTTOMLESS VOID.
Become
FREE by BECOMING a WHOLE and
HEALTHY PERSON
While others feel the need to
impress and
will date or look for someone more as a "trophy" than as a human being to share
some of their lives with.
Still there are people who would actually rather be alone
and yet feel that they are "supposed" to be with someone
and so they fall into this
Trap.
None of these people
are Free. Are you ?
None of us are
completely free, yet some of us are more Free than
others.
Are you
as FREE as you would like to be ? As FREE as you can
Be ? Write or Call Me to Find out
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So however you found yourself here and
now,
you can
feel good knowing that you are at the right place and at
the right time in your life now to take
back control and schedule some sessions to
FREE
YOURSELF from Traps and less than helpful LABELS and
HABITS and to BE
your BEST SELF !!!
NOW
with the help of :
Michael Twomey, Professional Hypnotist in New York
City
http://www.adventuresintrance.com
( 917 )
623-2352
So what exactly does a FREE PERSON do ?
The answer could be as simple as almost anything they want to do.
For intance, someone who is NOT free is in a Relationship that goes bad or ends. They wind up sulking and moaning and getting more and more bitter and resentlful. They carry this "baggage" with them and these "scars" show and plague their next Relationships IF they are even able to find anyone new.
They repeat the SAME PATTERNS and make the SAME MISTAKES or find someone almost identical to their Past failed attempts.
Often, they find a mate that has the WORST TRAITS of both their PARENTS and then they strive to re-live old past incidents and
some people actually LEARN LESSONS from this and move on, and they find FREEDOM through a VERY DIFFICULT Path, whereas I
would Recommend Hypnosis or other Modalities that allow you to make POWERFUL CHANGES WITHIN YOURSELF and
to stop those old less than helpful patterns.
Basically, to RE-WIRE yourself so that you ATTRACT the Right Kinds of People into your Life.
The same is true for CAREER-----------some people are happy to work for others because of an often false sense of Security.
The Company goes out of Business or the plant closes down or something else happens and these workers are out of a job.
Some will move on to even better jobs and careers and will learn to protect themselves better in the future.
Others will simply find similar jobs and be in the same precarious situation as they were before.
While others will just be stuck and moan and complain about the old job and that they can't find anything as good or
that they just don't know what to do--------some time to grieve the loss of an old Relationship or Career or Job is Healthy, yet being stuck in this mourning period is UN HEALTHY and not practical for your Life.
Eventually, you need to move on to bigger and better things and better Relationships and you can't do this if you are caught in the old Trap of
being STUCK in the PAST.
So do whatever you need to in order to Find yourself calling and making appointments for Sessions with me to get you out of your Traps and to FREE yourself from this Prison of the Past and Move on with Your Life.
TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE NOW !!!!
We
can help you to
Take
control of YOUR habits
and
take
back control of YOUR LIFE
.
Please
contact us at
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