The
Male Mind
Though there is an emotional aspect to a man's interaction
with a woman, it is different than that of a woman. Men need to be important.
They need to be a "hunk". They need to be tough
and they need to be right. They are much more easily
provoked into a physical interaction than a woman which
can be positive or negative. According to some who study
social norms and tendencies they list having sexual
interaction as a need for both men and women in order to
be healthy and happy. Men think about sex much more than
women do. They tend to need and want it more.
So, how do you get a man
there? Men love it when they have been treated well. They
love surprises, notes, and especially food. Those areas
along with conversation will satisfy a man's emotional
need. A man however is much more tied to physical
attraction and interaction. Have you ever wondered why
there is very little men's lingerie available? It is
because women don't use the eyes as much as they do their
mouth and ears in emotional connection. A man naturally
makes mental note of the appearance of a woman and becomes
turned on or off by her dress, composure, shape, etc. So,
in order to get a man into an intimate setting the woman
must focus on making herself up. Dress up, whisper in his
ear, grab his arm, kiss him, dance with him, tug at him.
It drives many men crazy to have a woman play "hard
to get" - not too hard to get but hard enough that
things are very interesting. A man wants to feel dominant
so taking that away after giving it to him a little plays
with his mind and promotes intimacy.
Guys love sexy talk. They
love to hear how they look and how well they are doing.
They want to know they are satisfying. Guys like to be
guided without knowing they are.
Men love lingerie and sexy
clothes or no clothes at all. They become readily focused
on an attractive sight. The less that is worn and the more
they are pushed away in a playful manner the more they are
turned on.
Guys also love it when they
know they are tough but that the woman takes control of
the interaction. This is not to say that she talks his ear
off but that she questions him provocatively and pulls at
his limbs and clothes persuasively and touches him
anticipating his expectations. A man must not feel like he
is being a pest or that he is not wanted. If he touches in
a way that is not comfortable he needs to know it but he
must have an alternative so he doesn't feel rejected. If a
man feels rejected he may become cold and turned off
instantly. There is a difference between careful play
while pushing him away and flat out rejection.
In his mind he begins to
know that the girl wants him because of his manliness and
she is going to show him physically how much she wants
him.
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