Tips and Advice for Men

To get to the stage where a woman feels secure, a man needs to show her commitment. He needs to do things for her that say, "I am not going anywhere, I am yours." He needs to spend quality time with her. They should talk and get to a level of trust. Many find that a woman who has had a chance to talk and open up becomes emotionally satisfied and feels an intimate connection. Moving to intimate physical actions will follow. 

Women need to feel important and loved. They need to understand that a man wants them and not just for their body. They need to feel of worth. They feel loved when the man focuses on her through well-spent time and conversation as well as through simple meaningful surprises. These actions need to be consistent or they will seem like, "Oh, thanks for the rose. I guess you want to have sex now." The actions need to illustrate long term "I love you."

A woman needs to feel that she is beautiful - not just beautiful but very very beautiful. Words from a man are a start but there are much more meaningful communications, 90% non-verbal. A long open-mouthed stare followed by a "wow!" is an example. Another is the classic elevator look with the end of the look focused on the face (a wife loves this). She needs to know, without doubt (checking out another woman is certainly taboo) that the man wants her because she is beautiful. Regardless of her size or shape or appearance she will know deep down what you really think of her. So, if you want her to be intimate with you she has to know that she is beautiful and you need to know it too. She may not want to be naked or at least not naked in the light. She wants to feel secure, beautiful.

A woman needs to talk about the days (or weeks) activities until any issues no longer dominates her thoughts. Her thoughts must be on the relationship and she must be comfortable or her mind may wander during any interaction. She may turn you away. One of the best things a man can do is pick up a woman who is doing the dishes and set her in a chair right next to him and not let her do anything but talk while the man does the dishes. That may remove one of her daily tasks and satisfy the need for discussion too. 

If these areas are each accomplished every time intimacy is desired or coming then the woman will be in the mind set she needs to be and will move to a physical interaction.

A Woman's Expectations
A woman will not have sex every time she gets in the mood to be intimate. She gets satisfied at different levels. Most women in a couple will want to go all the way about 1 to 2 times a week, maybe that many times a month in some cases. Be careful about being demanding. There may be other ways for her to help satisfy your urge or you may have to focus on something else to relieve the urge. The key here is to TALK ABOUT IT. The two largest factors in couples splitting up is sexual and financial incompatibilities.

The Female Body
The way a woman is touched is critical to helping her feel beautiful and adored. Women are different than men in the way they want to be touched. They want a firm and gentle combination not rough, wimpy, or forceful.

Different women enjoy being touched in different ways. However, most women enjoy being touched in the following ways:

• Kissed on the lips and on the neck and shoulders.
• Massaged on the shoulders and back. 
• With finger tips across the area just above the breast and the neck.
• Gently on the breasts. Don't mash em. 
• Kissed lightly on the nipples.
• Firmly and gently squeezed on the thighs.
• Breasts massaged while man is behind her.
• Buttocks massaged at any time.
• Fingers through the hair.
• Massaged on the scalp. Now, there is an art to this one. Women are experts at this. They know exactly what pressure to apply and how and where to massage. Learn from a woman.
• Vaginal touching with the hand is strongly desired but build up to it. Don't just go straight there in most cases. She will let you know with her signals (usually the signals come very strongly).
• Vaginal penetration with the penis is not always welcome. There are strong signals there too. Many times it is desired if the woman has been treated like a queen and she has been built up to it.

Most women don't enjoy being touched in the following ways:

• Steer clear of the love handles unless she is very confident about her size.
• Don't lick her anywhere (especially the face) until it has been discussed.
• Stay clear of anything anal until it has been well discussed and procedure has been outlined.
• They don't want to feel crushed. If you are bigger than she is be careful how you lay on her and handle her.
• Don't suck the nipples too hard.

Critical Element!
The hope is that you have gotten this far in the article. Men and women are different in another way. Most men can get to a climax nearly every time, at least until mother nature has dysfunction set in. Women on the other hand may not often get there at all during intercourse. So, they fake it or go unsatisfied. It is absolutely critical to understand that there are ways to get a woman there every time unless there is clinical dysfunction. The key is to get the mind where it should be. Here is a technique that works almost every time.

After foreplay, the main course, and post intercourse play a man should lay a woman down on a bed or somewhere comfortable. The room should be dark or she closes her eyes. She spreads her legs and the man tells a story in her ear. He lowers his voice and whispers a fantasy of some sort into her ear (see Stories above). While doing that he fingers her with one (his middle) finger and changes strokes and pressure from time to time as he tells the story. The woman has to be responsible to focus...focus. Listen to the story. The story should drag out and build just like an orgasm would. Make proper use of the clit, the landing and the opening. She will let you know how it feels good.

Some women are able to have multiple orgasms until the story has ended because she is caught up in the tale. Make sure she gets there. It is huge for you for the next time you want it because she knows what is in store for her.