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Community
The
process was first described by best-selling author, Dr. M. Scott Peck, in his
book, The Different Drum. He presented further information in a later
book, A World Waiting To Be Born. Participants
sit in a circle. Brief instruction is offered regarding the guidelines for
interaction. The group begins to interact with persons speaking as they are
moved to do so. The work of Generally,
a group will cycle through four distinct stages. In the stage of Pseudo-Community,
the group is characterized by polite interaction as individuals "test the
waters" of relationship, operating on the assumption that group members
have few differences that divide them. As
the group continues to talk, the previously unspoken differences begin to
emerge. Typically, participants deal with the discomfort caused by the discovery
of difference by seeking to "fix" others or to "convert"
people to their point of view. In this stage, there is often limited listening,
high emotional energy, and a significant level of frustration. This stage has
been labeled chaos. Groups
regularly deal with the confusion of chaos by retreating to the stage of
pseudo-community or by attempting to organize in some way. Neither of these
avenues leads to a deep level of connection with others. A difficult, but
effective way to transcend the barriers to relationship lies through emptiness.
Emptying happens when individuals begin to notice what they are carrying
within themselves that prevents them from being authentically present with the
group and fully accepting others. As people begin to share what is real for them
personal experience of
the present moment in the group, prejudices, stories of past pain or joy,
unfulfilled expectations
group members begin to
come together in a new way. In this stage, a group will often feel like it is
dying but, in the painful struggle to let go of the barriers to relationship,
there is opportunity for something new to emerge. The
process of emptying provides room for a group to receive the gift of Community.
In this stage people experience a deep acceptance of others and find themselves
accepted as well. Individuals come to know themselves and others in new ways.
Differences still exist but they are transcended and celebrated rather than
suppressed. The group is characterized by a sense of profound respect,
appreciation and joy. |
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