effective than yelling when there is an actual reason for the woman to be mad. This particular method for yelling at a guy is extremely effective, because the unwary male may begin trying to figure out what he did wrong. As he goes through this, he finds a series of possible wrongs. When he doesn�t find something suitable, the girl keeps pretending to get madder and madder, because the guy doesn�t know what�s wrong (remember, nothing is actually wrong.) When the guy finally comes up with something that made the girl mad, she jumps on the event, and she plays it over and over in her mind until she actually gets mad. Now, she can yell at the guy and get the full benefit from it. It could be compared to being extremely hungry and eating either a cracker or a steak. Obviously, one would tend to choose the steak.
There are occasional times, however, when a girl says this, and she actually expects the guy to know what is wrong. Unfortunately for males, something the ladies don�t understand is the vast majority of men aren�t psychic, nor are they trained psychologists that might be able to figure out what�s wrong from the subtle hints the girl may give. In order for a man to know what is wrong, he must be told what is wrong. Situations like this are extremely dangerous, as the woman will continue getting madder at the guy, yet she will still refuse to answer the simple question of what is wrong. Often times, a guy gets lazy and decides if she doesn�t want to talk about it, it must not be that big of a deal. This partially explains the man�s frequent occupancy of the couch. If, however, the woman would just say what is wrong in the first place, the guy could apologize and the two could get on with life.
In both cases, the man will end up having to apologize, even if the wrong wasn�t really his fault. This is yet another significant bonus to this particular type of relational warfare. Not only is the woman doing this for her survival, but she is also using it to gain an advantage in the relationship. This could be compared to bodybuilders. All people must eat to survive, but bodybuilders eat great amounts of proteins to further their goal of building their muscles. Whether the two people in question are just friends or a couple is irrelevant. If the girl has a way to control a guy, she will use it. The exact benefits of being able to control a friend aren�t completely known, but some hypothesize that the benefits could be similar to those in a relationship. Being able to control a boyfriend or husband has many advantages, and women know it. When the woman has the man apologizing and feeling bad for something they did, she is more likely to get him to do what she wants, whether it is going to as specific restaurant, or watching the movie she wants to watch, or something similar. This is a truly brutal tactic men must watch out for. Sometimes a wrong has been done, and sometimes a wrong hasn�t been done. It is usually impossible to tell the difference, even in the later stages, but either way the man MUST apologize for it. |
