Richer living for single Christians:
A Singles Survival Guide, by Diane Kingston

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• Don’t be scared to hug your friends, we all need contact. Before doing this it is advisable to find out who would welcome this and who really don’t like hugs! Even if you see someone receiving a hug from another, it doesn’t mean that a hug from anyone else would be acceptable.

• Think carefully when interpreting someone’s behaviour. Is what you consider to be flirtation their own brand of playfulness? Perhaps you could compare the way they behave towards you with their behaviour towards someone else.

• Are you guilty of unhelpful or misleading flirting? Or are you over-cautious? Prayerfully look at your own behaviour with people of the opposite sex and modify it as you feel appropriate.

• We must be sensitive to how the way we dress affects people of the opposite sex. Jesus said "anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his own heart" (Matthew 5 verse 28). I believe that the principle found in 1 Corinthians 8 verse 13 can be applied to this by both men and women: "If what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause him to fall." Consider how you might need to change the way you dress to avoid causing a problem to your brothers or sisters.

• Remember that for single Christians sex is not an option until we are married. For more help in this area have a look at one of the more in-depth books listed at the end of this book.

• Be very careful of inappropriate relationships. Whether we are single or attached we sometimes crave personal attention which can quite easily develop into something more than we intended. This can ruin good friendships and hurt you. I can recommend "The Snare" (see the resources section of this guide) for guidance and suggestions of how to both avoid and get out of such relationships.

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