Richer living for single Christians:
A Singles Survival Guide, by Diane Kingston

Is there anyone out there?

• Find a way that suits you to find your right partner. For ideas try books like "No sex please we’re single" and "If I’m so Wonderful why am I still single?" (see the resources section of this guide).

• There are several Christian Dating or Introduction agencies, and possibilities on the Internet are growing. I think we need to forget the British culture against this sort of way of finding a partner, and to embrace them as our American brothers and sisters have done. How else will you discover those potential partners that you might otherwise never meet. A benefit of meeting someone this way, rather than meeting someone elsewhere socially, is that you both know that you are looking for your right partner and not just socialising.

• If you are uncomfortable with introduction or dating agencies, enlarge your network of contacts. Some ways of doing this might be through inter-church meetings, training days and Christian social groups.

• Think about the characteristics of the "right" person for your partner, and identify areas which you might be able to develop into this person, while still remaining true to yourself. The books "Spirit Controlled Temperament" and "Spirit Controlled Woman" (see the resources section of this guide) might be able to help shed some light on this.

• Avoid trying to over-define the qualities of the person who is right for you. First and foremost, the relationship must work and feel right.

• Meditate on "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37 v 4) and the verses around it. One interpretation is that the more we trust and love our Father God, he will fill our heart with His desires. An alternative interpretation is that as we trust and love Him, the more we desire what He wants for us. Consider how you might respond.

• Consider the possibility that God’s plan for you might be to remain single. If this is the case you may need to come to terms with this and determine to live a fulfilled life in God’s service in that state if necessary. You might find a trained counsellor a great help.

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