Richer living for single Christians:
A Singles Survival Guide, by Diane Kingston

Widen your circle

• If you don’t like the idea of holidaying on your own you could try an organised holiday with other Christians (ideas are listed in the resources section of this guide) - there will probably be other people on their own. You could ask the reservations office if they can tell you if there will be others travelling on their own. My single friends tell me that just after the summer holidays seems to be a good time for single people.

• If you are looking for company during a holiday period, you could try one of the holidays and weekend events run by some of the organisations for single Christians (some are listed in the resources section of this guide). The Easter, Christmas and New Year events have become very popular, demonstrated by how quickly places get filled.

• If you find that your Christian service (for example, youth work or choir) takes a lot of your time, ensure that you are open to opportunities to meet with others in the same line of service, for example national training events or festivals.

• You are not alone in being a single Christian, so try out an organisation for people like us. The resources section of this guide lists a few in the UK, some of which have local groups. You might find that events are organised locally to you, but you might need to be prepared to travel a little bit to their events. By asking around you might find that there is a group for single Christians even more local to you. Experience has shown me that groups advertised for "20’s and 30’s" can have fairly elastic age limits at the upper end.

• Discuss with your church leader / priest / pastor the options that might be available for the church body to help single Christians.

• Prepare for the future. Now is the time to build friendships, learn skills, and develop interests for you to enjoy even more later on.

• Get out and be with people.

• Find a group of other Christians with similar interests, for example, the Christian Rambling Club in the UK. You will probably find other single people there too. For some other examples, look in the back of Christian magazines and newspapers.

• Identify what your interests/passions/skills are and think about how these might be channelled for God.

• Find a new interest. Most libraries have a list of clubs, associations and classes in their area. Remember to consider what it means in terms of time, meeting people and level of commitment

• Discover a new skill - perhaps join an evening class (maybe watercolours, welding, dance, cookery or a language) or join a weight loss club, or find the Advanced Drivers Institute, or get involved in the local amateur theatre club

• Take up dancing. Classes are springing up in even small towns and are a good way of meeting people. You don’t need a partner in dance styles such as Line Dancing, and in others such as Ceroc or Salsa you don’t always need to go with anyone.

• Find a choir or singing group to join, either in the church or in the wider community

• Surf the Internet - find new Christian friends and organisations all over the world, and at all times of the day and night. If you don’t have access to the internet then ask at your library for your nearest "cyber café" or "internet exchange". A list of useful websites can be found at the end of this book.

• Have a browse in your nearest Tourist Information Centre. This is as useful a source of information to locals as well as visitors; look in the phone book if you don’t know where this is.

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