Jack's
Birth Plan
Jack is a miracle baby. Due to severe amniotic band syndrome,
he suffered from multiple birth defects, and doctors predicted
he would not survive birth by more than an hour, if at all. Jack
has survived for five months since his birth, with no sign of
yielding to the doctors' dire predictions any time soon. His
life is a blessing to his parents.
We are preparing this list in hopes to gain some control over
a situation that is completely out of our hands. We have known
for months that our unborn son, "Jack" is very ill
and not expected to live. We have made an informed decision to
carry Jack to term and keep him with us for as long as possible.
Please honor our requests to preserve the dignity of his special
life.
-We would like for the staff to informed and aware of our
situation.
-We would like early & active labor to be private with
the exception of possibly C's mother and sister.
-C would like medication to minimize her pain. (The emotional
pain will be enough) Our time with Jack will be coming to an
end at this point, & we would like to focus our energy on
him not on her discomfort.
-We would like to have soothing music. We will bring CDs that
we have played for Jack up to this point, in hopes that it help
make his transition as peaceful as possible.
-We would like the staff to know we are having a sweet little
boy named John Andrew J, Jack for short. We would appreciate
if he were referred to by name.
-Once Jack is delivered we would like A to baptize him immediately.
-We would like the Dr. to cut the cord. Being this is his
lifeline to us, it may be too hard to do.
-If Jack is able to breathe on his own; we would like to have
his condition assessed. If he is able to sustain life we want
to provide him any and all comfort care without being put on
life support. We want Jack to suffer as little as possible &
be allowed to die with dignity and peace.
-When Jack is born & being assessed, we would like for
one of us to be with him at all times, so that if he passes away
his Mommy or Daddy will be there to hold his hand.
-When Jack does die we want some time, however long we decide,
to be together as a family, alone. We will want to bathe him
and dress him.
-Family will be able to meet him after this point. We will
want to take pictures and have as much time with our family as
needed. If our family priest is able to be there we would like
a prayer service for our family and any staff member that would
like to pay their respects.
-We realize that Jack will different looking physically. We
hope that everyone can see him for what he is rather that what
he isn't. He is our beautiful little boy, Jack. He represents
every thing that is good and pure in our lives. He will be greatly
missed and never forgotten.
