Tips for Carrying
to Term
Welcome to the major portion of this
site.
Don't feel you have to head through
each of these sections in order. Heaven knows I didn't write
them or experience them that way! You may want to check out only
the areas that you're working through at the moment, or the parts
you're coming up on soon. Poke around and see if anything you
find is of personal use. Take what you find helpful and ignore
the rest. This is free advice, and it's worth every penny. The
best situation would be that these pages raise an issue, you
and your spouse discuss it, and you and your spouse together
reach a conclusion that best fits your circumstances. The majority
of the "tips" are really just my own experience and
things I wish I had done differently, or else things I wouldn't
change at all.
If you've got a tip of your own to pass
along, email me, and I'll include it. If you see that I'm suggesting
totally the wrong thing to do, let me know and I'll mention your
alternative approach. (I may agree with it, too!)
Every section contains may subsections,
but I had to organize it all somehow.
But first things first
This is a very important insight from
Monika, so I'll share it with you prior to the deluge
of information:
When a new anencephalic baby is born, I always think about
how it was when I had my little Anouk. What went fine, what could
have been better. I hope that the mother who has her baby now
does not make the same "mistakes" I did, that she does
not have regrets as I have sometimes. While I was thinking about
this, God reminded me of the story of Jesus visiting Martha and
Mary (Luke 10.38-42). Martha was cleaning the house, preparing
a good meal... all the things which have to be done. Mary sat
down at the feet of the Lord and listened to his teaching. Martha
was upset and asked Jesus to send Mary to help her. But Jesus
said : "You are worried and troubled over so many things,
but just one is needed. Mary has chosen the right thing, and
it will not be taken away from her."
We are worried over so many things; so many things could
have been done better during the time we had our babies. But
God said to me, "Just one was needed." To give all
my love to my baby. I didn't give a bath to Anouk, I didn't even
try to nurse her... but God comforts me and says, "Just
one was needed, and you have done it." The love I gave to
Anouk will never been taken away from her!
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