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A Dominant is the counterweight (a contrasting weight to create a balance) to a submissive. The Dominant is the equivalent of a Top in the D/s relationship. S/He is the person who controls and guides the submissive or slave.

A Dominant is someone who cares for His/Her submissive and will protect, direct, and guide that submissvive in his/her journey. The Dominant at the same time can be stern, and a diciplinarian (when needed).

The Dom/me should always have safety as His/Her main concern, with it first on His/Her mind. S/He may learn to know how to use pain to extend the realm of pleasure one can experience. As well as knowing how to comfort His/Her submissive.

S/He is a guide and director, who can bring His/Her submissive to new levels in his/her sexual, emotional, mental and physical boundaries and experiences. The Dominant is respected, providing S/He can show what that is and earn the right to keep His/Her given respect. S/He is secure enough to laugh at the pitfalls of life, and is always ready and willing to take responcibility for His/Her mistakes. Before a Dom/me will promise to take care of and control His/Her submissive (or slave), S/He should be comfortable in any task S/He may plan on doing with His/Her submissive or slave, for safety's sake.

Lastly, I would like to say that a Dominant is not some macho, strict and unemotional person (some people really have that perception). A Dom/me is someone who knows what S/He wants, but, is willing to give up His/Her own pleasure to ensure that His/Her submissive is safe and taken care of. For example: S/He would never enforce His/Her submissive or slave to put Him/Her before the submissive's family or religion. The Dominant is also a human being with hurts, pains, limits and emotions as well.