1. An encounter should be scheduled strictly for fun, not for some hope of an emotional attachment. It's best to start with a medium level of expectations; you're more likely to be pleasantly surprised!

2. Before meeting, each guy will have taken a recent shower or at least have cleaned thoroughly in the genital and anal areas. Each will have informed the other about ANY sexually transmitted diseases.

3. A hug upon greeting is a good way to get comfortable with full body contact with the other guy. Even if you feel an initial letdown, make an effort to proceed enthusiastically. You could end up quite happy. Some guys exaggerate their appearance, and face pics exchanged (strongly recommended) may not be recent. But a warm smile can often more than compensate!

4. For non-quickie encounters, both guys should schedule for an hour+. In the timing, as in many other aspects of the encounter, the residence host takes the lead. Normally, the host will offer something to drink and start a discussion on expectations for the meeting. For the guest, a two drink limit is wise for later driving home!

5. Too much chat can cool the libido. An informal neck and shoulder massage can be a good way to ease into more intimate body contact. A joint shower can be a hot way to break the ice and ease any cleanliness concerns.

6. Unless a member's profile shows a liking for kissing, the other member should not initiate kissing on the mouth.

7. In foreplay, consider stimulating more than another's cock. Remember that general foreplay can be as pleasurable as the more intense sex for many people!

8. For oral sex with disease free guys, the standard expectation is that condoms will not be used. Put them on for any anal sex. Anal sex is not a normal expectation among Blowjobs Club members.

9, Don't be shy about stating your wishes/ fantasies during the encounter! The other person may not want to oblige, but he certainly can't help when he doesn't know what your desire!!

9. When a guy feels his climax is near, he will tell the other guy. The standard expectation is NO cumming in the mouth, unless agreed to in advance. The host will have nearby towels for cleanup.

10. Unless understood beforehand, each party should do what he can to help the other cum. After both have cum, a cooling-off period of quietly holding each other is generally welcomed.

11. After an hour, either guy may want to discuss ending the encounter. Plans for a next meeting (perhaps at the guest's residence) can be made or be left vague. A vague status should be understood to mean that one of the parties does not want a repeat.

12. Within 24 hours, the guest ought to send a thank-you e-mail - even if he didn't have a good time. The host should reply, including some favorable comments about the encounter. Neither party should put derogatory comments in writing. But it is kind to mention what you did and did not enjoy in any aspect of the get-together. Without this feedback, the other guy will likely keep making similar missteps with other club members!

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