A Cancelled Appointment - how OralMarin reacted (below pic)

Hello -----,

When you didn't show up Sunday as we had scheduled, it was a big letdown for me. (Unfortunately I did not get to your e-mail cancellation until the next day.) Our playtime interests seemed to match so well, based on our IM and phone chats - the last one less than 24 hours before we were supposed to meet! As we discussed, it takes a real effort to find a partner with such similar interests, and the fact that you live so close is a real bonus - for both of us!

Perhaps my thinking is different from others you have met, but I place an intimacy appointment at the top of my priority list. I wouldn't cancel or ask for a rescheduling unless I got sick (and could pass on germs to you) or an unexpected family emergency arose. For me, first time get-togethers are like meeting a new business contact with whom I had hopes for lots of future dealings. In both cases, I would have worked hard in e-mail and phone contacts to get the appointment set up. Knowing that a cancellation (for any reason) or even arriving late would cast doubt on my enthusiasm that meeting, I try to do everything in my power to meet such a commitment.

Some playtime buddies feel that business changes are a valid excuse for canceling personal appointments. I disagree. If there is a possibility that a business (or other) need will make a guy seek a rescheduling, I ask that he rethink the time of our meetings. I would be happier with an unshakable 6am or 10pm appointment, rather than one at a more convenient, but less certain time. Anytime a person cancels for a "higher priority" need, that person is telling me that I am of lower priority - and that definitely is not a turn on!! Contrast such a situation with a new guy showing up exactly on time, full of enthusiasm. Which guy is likely to get the order, get the job, or get me fully aroused? Perhaps even more than in other interpersonal situations, first impressions for intimate play are particularly fragile and critical.

All this being said, I still would like to reschedule with you. How could I resist, when your IM chat included comments like these!

I'm a very romantic and sensual man

I like to kiss and love to cuddle too....

I like to feel a man's body next to me, rubbing our bodies together........

I like to enjoy each other and do what comes naturally between two men that are turned on......

I love to 69..........I love to suck and taste a man in my mouth.....

I'm getting hard just thinking about it.........hard and wet...

Wish I had a cock in my mouth now.......I love the real thing......

I like to feel a man moving under me while we hold each other...oh baby!

Words are great, but like you, I love the real thing! So much so, that in the past, I have stopped contact with guys who cancel twice in a row - for any reason - no matter how attractive they otherwise might seem. Cancellations are difficult for me to handle. They leave me horny and prone to agree to last minute substitutions that rarely are satisfying. My goal is a reliable set of BJ buddies with whom I can count on having intense, mutually satisfying intimacy. And the first priority for me is their showing up as planned! When we cannot meet, we give each other as much notice as possible, and always make phone contact if there is any possibility that an e-mail message won't be read in time. Phoning is easy; I wonder why you have never called me!

I would enjoy rescheduling for next Sunday or Monday - perhaps at a time in the evening when there is no possibility of a conflict for you. Give me a call at 389-8460 to discuss things. For us it's not a toll call, and I much more enjoy talking, rather than typing on IM, when feasible. Let's give ourselves another chance for a connection!

Your neighbor and future buddy,

OralMarin