September 2005
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?"
- Tupac, "Keep Ya Head Up"
She invites the abuse back into her life. To me, she is no longer a victim. I feel this way without apology.
You see, sometimes you become a victim by choice, in which case, the label no longer applies. A victim is someone who is adversely affected by events outside of his/her control. If, for example, a car jumps the curb and hits you while you're just standing there, then you're a victim. On the other hand, if the same car hits you while you happen to be hanging out in the middle of the road, then you chose to put yourself in harm's way. You are not a victim.
When you put yourself over and over in a situation where the same thing is going to happen then, you my friend, are a dumbass.
No disrespect, BUT.... You don't hear about people living inside an active volcano, do you? Why is that? Is it-
A- Because it's dangerous
B- Because it's guaranteed to blow up on you at any moment
C- Because it can/will kill you
D- All of the above
C'mon. Give me a break with the victim sob story.
To all the women in abusive relationships: He's only doing it because you let him.