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The Children's Mother: "Child Predator"
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I made a mistake with someone I hardly knew, and wound up with a child. I tried to do the "noble" thing, and then there were two. (However, both the children and I have subsequently been told numerous times that I am not their real father.) When her violent erratic behavior began, I tried kindness, reasoning, patience, and understanding. And then I tried harder. I suggested counseling. After years of escalating violence, much of it directed at the children, I demanded it. She went to five different ones - from sterile, clinical "robo-therapists"" to religious fanatics and most everything in between - but stopped each time the therapy touched on the root of the problem - her childhood physical, emotional and sexual abuse.
I called the police...over and over again...so much so they began telling me to "handle my own problems". Eventually I began requesting that they file charges against her, but was always told that if you're married to her, there's nothing they can do if you don't have an Order of Protection. (Over time, it became clear that in practice, it's actually "if you were ever married to her...".)
All but the last 3 of the 12 attorneys I have involved in this case vehemently argued against my getting an Order of Protection against the children's mother, for any reason whatsoever, stating that they were "nothing more than worthless pieces of paper", and "would only aggravate the judge and make me look like the bad guy". And yet every time I was beaten in front of the kids, every time the house was broken into and contents destroyed, every time my car or motorcycle or other piece of property was vandalized, every time she threatened to murder the children, I was told by the police officer that a report would be made, but no charges would actually be filed unless I had an Order of Protection.
I made numerous phone calls, and went to the State's Attorneys Office on several occasions. For years, with every act of escalating violence, property damage, and abuse of the children, I tried desperately to somehow get the police reports to turn into formal charges from the State's Attorney's Office. The law enforcement side would always tell me that they sent the paperwork to the State's Attorney's Office, and the State's Attorneys Office would tell me they never got it. Both sides would become irritated at any suggestion that they communicate with the other organization regarding the incidents, and would tell me that they don't tell the other side how to do their job.
I have tried to involve the Department of Children and Family Services and other state and national agencies, and well, you can read elsewhere how that went. I have tried to enlist the help of congressman and senators. I have looked for help in both the right-wing and far left-wing religious communities. I have sought the media's attention in just about every form imaginable - from local and regional newspapers to Oprah, 20/20, The O'Rielly Factor, Dateline NBC, Nightline and more. I have contacted just about every government agency, private organization and political action group I can find on the web and elsewhere, that claims to have any involvement in child abuse, child welfare, father's rights and parental alienation.
I have, for almost a decade, followed the advice of my attorneys in meticulously obeying every court order, including rewarding the children's abuser with huge sums of money for every escalation of violence and torment against my children, myself and my loved ones. I was told that that was what was going to get me (and my children) my "day in court" - that that was what was going to make me "the credible one in the eyes of the judge". And after watching helplessly for almost 10 years, and never being allowed to present my evidence, or rarely even speak, I have come to the conclusion that I have no other recourse than to expose this injustice in this manner.
WHITESIDE COUNTY JUDGES STATE'S ATTORNEYS OFFICE
THE LAW FIRM OF P, L & M PSYCHO SOCIAL SERVICES
DEPARTMENT OF CHILDREN AND FAMILY SERVICES THE MEDIA
ILLINOIS STATE ATTORNEY GENERAL'S OFFICE THE RELIGIOUS COMMUNITY
PRIVATE ORGANIZATIONS / POLITICAL ACTION GROUPS THIS IS JOINT PARENTING?
For anyone planning on suing me over this site's contents, well, I've got attorneys for that too, so knock yourself out. (It turns out First Amendment rights and the Internet is a lot hotter topic than father's rights and child abuse, so the legal defense might not cost me a dime.) Maybe you'll win. But regardless of the outcome, for as long as I live, or at least until my children are comparatively safe, I will continue to disseminate the truth of what my children continue to be put through, and the role the above mentioned continue to play in their torment. Of course, the saddest part is that none of this ever had to happen - not to my children, nor to anyone else ever involved - and it could all end at anytime - if only someone in authority would listen, stand up for what's right, and do their job.
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