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Reach Me a Gentian (revisited July 2002)
"...When the world within them where they still cling to old dreams for their children is failing, we cannot tell parents with Demeter Complexes to deny what they’re feeling.  We can’t browbeat them with correct and helpful information, urge them to “look on the bright side” or to stop expressing their painful and confusing feelings without pressuring them to hide or deny those emotions.  Instead, we must know when to speak and when to be silent..."
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Reach Me a Gentian (June 2002)
"...A lot of parents develop a kind of “Demeter Complex” when their children come out to them as LGBT... they become so convinced that the “lord of the underworld” has subverted their baby that they become arrested at the Anger or Bargaining stages of their grieving process, unable to progress to acceptance and a healthy relationship with their son or daughter..."
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Integral Care (May 2002)
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It’s normal to focus on the newest trait for a while—especially one like sexual orientation or gender identity that requires so much adjustment of expectations and understanding—but eventually the unconditional love of parents, families and friends blooms fully into a river of integral care..." READ MORE

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