I would like to say to start off with that a man abusing a woman is not acceptable behavior in a relationship. It is most definately not a healthy environment for the woman or her children, physically or psychologically. Our family is made up of people who are prime examples of children who have been affected by violence. What I am going to describe is what has affected us and keep in mind that our children witnessed some of this. Now, if we were affected by Violence when we were younger ourselves, Imagine how our children are going to be affected and the disorders they will have.
To start out with we (siblings & children) are abusers of alcohol, drugs and in some ways each other, due to the violence. We all have selfesteem issues. Some have had trouble with Law enforcement. Some have mental disorders such as Bi-polar, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorders, Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, Anxiety Disorders, Social Disorders and the list could go on and on. I believe 100% in my heart and soul that these disorders are from the violence and abuse that we have experienced.
Abuse comes in many forms. Let me give you some examples. I have had guns and knives pulled on me. I have had my nose broken and my wrist broken, each at different times. I have had my hair pulled and been dragged by my hair to obey a command. I have been slapped in the face and all over my head. I have been spit on. I have been threatened. I have been thrown out doors at night in my pajamas and lock out of the home in the middle of winter. I have been manipulated into taking the man back by threats and by promises. I have ran away in the middle of winter with no shoes or coat on and been caught and dragged back home. I have had black eyes, bloody noses. I have been treated to like I was a slave. I was forced to have sex when I didnt want to. I have had my childrens lives threatened. I have had to sit back and witness abuse to my children.
My sister Carol has been beat all over her body by different men. She has been made to fix meals and not allowed to eat any of it. She has had guns pulled on her and been grabbed by the sleeve and dragged outside and told she was going to be shot. Luckily she broke free and got away that time. Her home was set on fire and barely escaped before the fuel tank exploded. She has been hit many, many times. She was constantly bruised very badly all about her body. She was threatened in many ways that if she left and didnt come back she would pay for it. She was forced to take narcotics she didnt want, she was forced to have sex when she didnt want it, and I believe she was forced to have sex with men she didnt want to have sex with. She has been cut with a Knife. She was not allowed to leave the house unless he OK'd it. She was not allowed to use the phone. She couldnt have any contact with me. She was isolated totally from her family and children. She couldnt have any respecting visitors because of the trafficking of drugs.
The last time she left this environment she said and these are her exact words, " If I ever really want to die, I will go back to him, cause I know he is eventually gonna kill me." Carol did go back to him. I believe she went back because she didnt want to be dependent on her family. he drank alot to mentally escape this torture. And on June 26, 1998 he did Kill Her.
D.V. INFO PG.3
