Well where do I start....hmmmm
I really cannot speak about a man's ''seasons''.
So I will share about being a woman...
not a wife...
not a mom...
not a daughter...
but being a Woman.
I am not talking about a running away on a 'quest to find yourself' or anything like that. (Altho running away is sometimes rather appealing!)
I am talking about taking a deep look into who you are.
Yes, you may be a wife, a mom, and of course you are a daughter;
but first of all you are a woman.
The point I am trying to make here is that anyone, man or woman, need to develop who they are before they can begin to think of sharing their lives with someone else.
This means taking a long hard look at who you are....one way to do this is think about your own personality ~ now, would you be able to live with you? Are you the person you want to be? Is your life headed in the direction you want it to go?
If not, that's okay, begin to look at your strengths and develop them deeper and take one weakness at a time and begin to change them. Begin a journal with your goals and desires and dreams and begin to make small attainable goals towords them
You cannot change overnight!
(And by the way, if you don't think you need any changing and you think you are the perfect person already, I have news for you, you need the most changing of all. No offense but hey, NOBODY is perfect!)
I have become a more sensual person.
Sensuality = look at the root word, Senses
All sensuality is, is the developing and being aware of all your senses.
To me this means:
Hearing = What am I hearing from the world around me? Am I really listening to my family, friends, co-workers, etc. Am I just hearing their noises or am I really LISTENING with my heart? And what am I doing with those things that I am LISTENING to? Do I react in a positive way or negative way or just neutral and not getting involved? I don't mean react with words to everything, but am I frowning at someone? Rolling my eyes? Smiling at them?
Sight = Basically the same as hearing, am I really SEEING the world around me or just glancing? Am I seeing people for who they are, or am I seeing only what they lack in my narrowminded judgement? I am not saying to accept everyone with open arms no matter what, we do all have beliefs and standards and we should stand by those beliefs and standards, but we also need to look at others with compassion and accept them for who they are, understand where they are at in their lives, and not pass judgement on them.
Take in the beauty around you...and also see the ugly. For when we see the ugly, (and I mean the ugliness of the world not specific people!) then we can begin to be aware of what we can do to bring beauty into the world.
Touch = When I touch my family or hug a friend or shake a strangers hand for the first time, am I really touching them? Am I leaving them with the feeling that I am genuinely interested in them or just doing an act that is expected.
When I hug my kids do they KNOW just by my touch that I love them?
My touch should convey my message without words.
Touch is so very important to us as humans. Look at the tiny infants in the intensive care units of hospitals...science has proven that babies born with drug addiction or premature babies thrive nearly 100% better and their survival rate is much higher if they are held, talked to and stroked as compared to babies left to lay in their incubators with little or no touch.
Touch is a very powerful thing.
When words are not enough, a gentle hug or just a squeeze of a hurting friends' hand can tell them all you need to say.
Taste = When I experience taste am I just taking in nourishment or am I really enjoying it? Now I don't mean to take 5 minutes with every bite of something but enjoy your meals, snacks or whatever....be thankful you have the luxury of enjoying such a vast variety.
Smell = Basically the same as taste, am I enjoying the flowers so to speak. Am I enjoying the fact that when I drive by a bakery I can smell one of my favorite smells....mmmm fresh bread.
Am I enjoying the marvelous world around us...The cliche is so very true...
"Take time to stop and smell the roses"
(Or for us coffee addicts, ...smell the coffee! )
Now if you really incorporate these concepts into your life you will be amazed at how enhanced your world becomes. How 'rich' you really are.
Try it for a month, see if your life does not take on a whole new focus.
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