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Christian Love...

Hello there,
I want to share a little of my heart with you today. I read about a 15 year old girl who killed herself because she wasn't accepted at school and no one seemed to care (except her mother - her father had just died). Anyway, I wanted to tell you that the way we accept each other on the internet is the way God's plan is supposed to work in our daily lives. We should always look at the heart of a person and never at their appearance. On the internet, we don't usually know what the other person looks like, and all we can judge them on is their heart. We grow to care about others on the internet because of their responses to us, and not because of how they look or what they have. We don't know about another person's personal life (unless they choose to reveal it to us) - how they live, where they work, what race they are, or what bad habits they may have. It's sad but true, that the people we see in our everyday life we judge more harshly because we can see them and know their bad habits.

What a sad statement to make. Let us not only accept those we may never meet, but let's accept the unlovely and the hard to love in our every day life. Every person on the face of the earth wants to be accepted and loved - we often buy into the world's assessment of who should be accepted and who we should shun. Let us never fall for the lie about who is worthy and who is not. All of God's creation is worthy of our care and concern because Jesus died for them. That doesn't mean we are to be gullable and not be cautious about others - it's that we should always react to others with love and tender care. It is a wonderful thing to feel loved by someone you have never met. And it is a precious gift to have others whom you know very well to also love you.

One day this last week, at my local gas station, I got out of my car and reached for the gas hose to fill my car tank. There were two older teens in a pickup and one turned to look at me. He made a face to the other one and said, "Man, now that woman is ugly." Of course this shocked me and hurt my pride. However, because I know that I am loved and accepted completely by God, my family, and friends, his comment didn't hurt that bad. I just know how teens are because I raised seven children) LOL - they say things for a laugh, or for attention and really don't realize the pain it causes others. Nevertheless, there are a few people whom a comment like that would have been devestating. If you have any influence on a teenager please try to teach them to be kind hearted. Read them my thoughts... At the bottom of this letter is the story I recieved and it will break your heart. Read it and pray for God to help you have more compassion for others.

So please remember to take a moment to show compassion to another who is not lovely (according to the world's view) and your love may be the very thing they need to gain the strength to keep on keeping on.

When I say I love you... I mean it. Love is a commitment, not a mushy feeling. Love is acceptance and forgiveness of others for their bad habits (who among us is perfect?). Let us accept others even if they have bad habits and even if they are not lovely. To love the one who is unlovable is what God expects us to do - after all, it's easy to love those who love us and it's easy to love the lovely. Can we truly love others as God would have us to? Please let's not get caught up in this world of hate, greed and selfishness.

Dear God, please help us to love as you loved. Please make us aware of the lonely hearts about us and help us to see others as you see them. Amen...

I am not saying that I know the following story is true (so many stories we read are not true) but the fact remains that there are too many people committing suicide because they truly believe no one cares about them.
God bless you,
Dot



About one year ago, A fifteen year old girl died.

Her name: Lisa Marie
She was a very lovely girl. She lived in Michigan and she hung herself in her own house. In her room, five days after her death, her mother found Lisa's diary. She wanted to know why Lisa hung herself. these are the entries of her diary:

November 7, 1999
Dear diary:
Today was my first day of school in Michigan. When I walked in the classroom some of the guys spit wads at me and called me a freak. that's the start of a bad day. Then some really popular pretty girls walked over to me and introduces themselves. They told me that I was the ugliest thing they'd ever seen. and I started to cry. I went home and Jake called me. I thought the day would get better. But he told me that long distance relationships dont work out. he lived in California, and I moved to Michigan. Then I told him I loved him and that I missed him. He told me that the only reason he ever went out with me was because I was a joke, and he was dared to. Then he dumped me. I can't believe it because We were going out for two and a half years.

November 9, 1999
Today got a little better. I miss Jake so much you dont even know diary! But he even changed his number so I wouldn't call him. But the most hottest guy at school asked me to the dance! And those prissy girls that said I'm ugly let me hang out with them at lunch today. It was cool! I think things are finally starting to look up.

November 10, 1999
I'm crying right now ... turns out that hot guy was a jerk at the dance he poured his punch on me, and those girls ripped my dress and everyone started laughing then my grandma told me today that Mom and dad got in a car accident today on their way to work. They're in critical condition, they might die. I can't write anymore.

November 11, 1999
Todays a Saturday ... but me and grandma were at the hospital all night long. Dad died this morning. Mom is going to live, but she's crippled for her life. I wanna die too. while we were at the hospital grandma found out that she had cancer in her stomach. She has to go on chemotherapy. I can't believe daddy died I'm crying more then I have my whole life. I don't no how I could go on like this. I'm in shock. I cant write... I'm too tired. I need sleep.

November 12
Daddy is not dead! He cant be! its all a dream. My life is perfect. Jake still loves me. I can barely write. IM crying too much. i wanna die. take me. bye



One day later, Lisa was found dead in her basement. She had hung herself with a yellow rope. I am her mother. My name is Marinade Gonzalez. The reason I wrote this e-mail to all of you, is because no one else deserves what my daughter suffered. Please remember that everyone needs love. Everyone needs a hug everyday. No one should be made fun of, or insulted. no one deserves to die like Lisa did. all of you please don't be the popular prissy girls that put other people down to make themselves feel better. please dont be the awful possessed date for the dance that makes people cry. now please do me the honor of sending this toes many people as you can think of. So that everyone will know not to be cruel or be a jerk.
thank you, Marinade.



A dear friend of mine sent me this email and I want to share it with you...

Dear Dorthy,
Thank you for sharing this message with me from the depths of your soul. If I could explain to all our children it would be as follows:
"For we do not have a High Priest Who is unable to understand and sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses and infirmities and lability to the assaults of temptation, but One Who has been tempted in every respect as we are, yet without sinning." Hebrews 4:15.

God understands you and everything you may be going through. He wants to comfort, console, and encourage you. There are times when we all feel misunderstood. We crave understanding, wanting others to understand our needs, struggles, and challenges in life.

We want them to reach out to us and comfort us. So it is very disappointing when they either don't seem to want to or don't know how to. There are also times when we need understanding but get judgment and criticism, or we need love and acceptance but receive rejection instead.

What good news to realize that the Lord does understand us, without judging or rejecting us. Actually, Jesus understands us even better than we understand ourselves. Maybe you've felt that way too. When we feel that others are rejecting us, we begin rejecting ourselves ~ and this is a big mistake.

We must have a good relationship with ourselves if we are to have a good relationships with others. Jesus wants to tell you what is right with you and how all the wrong things can be changed by the power of His Spirit in your life. God's will for you and me is that we receive His unconditional love, love ourselves in a balanced way, love Him in return, and let His love flow through us to others.

This may sound simple, but it normally takes years to work this entire process in individual lives. Even then it requires a lot of willingness for people to allow God's will to be worked in their lives. A person who has been hurt badly through abuse or severe rejection can find the process even more difficult. If you feel unloveable, it is hard to believe that God loves you. And if God, Who is all love, cannot love us, then who can?

There were times when people tried to love me, but I was so wounded and fearful that I did not know how to receive their love. One of the main things that helps get through the changes that must take place in our lives is that God comforts us during all of our difficulties. Remember, sometimes when people hurt you they really don't mean to, HURTING PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE!

The Bible teaches that you reap what you sow. Therefore, I remind you to sow encouragement into other people if you want to receive it when you have need. Several Scriptures in the Bible instruct us to encourage others, including the weak, the feeble-minded, those in trouble, those who have sinned, those who have experienced a loss, ect....

Sometimes God comforts us through a person that He prompts to encourage us. Very frequently, God uses people to answer our prayers. He does the work, but He delivers it through people who are available for Him to use. God's Word is medicine for your soul. Learn to take it like medicine; regularly and as often as you need it. Everyone you know may want to talk to you about the problem, but God will talk to you about the answer.

Thank you, Ron...
I appreciate your tender heart.
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