Chapter five
I have been in a few relationships where there were children and got to know a bit about them.
I never thought I was a role model to children ever, I am just me I could not have any effect what so ever but sadly I was wrong, very , very wrong. Children look up to you as though you are the world, all it takes is you to recognize them and they think the world of you. I never realized it. My cousin Nancy she told me one day that I was her role model, she looks up to me. I never caught on before, she always wanted all the cloths I wore, wanted any piercing I got, she wanted my shoes, she wanted to be me pretty much. I use to give her my cloths no problem they don�t fit me anymore so I gave them to her. What I didn�t realize was the actions I did she tried to follow. I have been an internet junky for the longest time, she got the internet and turned into a miniature me, her mother asked me to talk to her about getting off the computer and going outside, so I of course invited her over and told her that there is an outside life, that I am older then her and I know what is out there, I�ve faced it and she can not be like me now but should try to be like me back then. She hated the idea of getting off the computer but it worked she was on the computer 4 hours a day and then outside the rest. What was the worst thing is she wanted to be so much like me that she put her life aside and tried to relive mine, because I am her role model I have to do my best to be the best I can around her, what I do shapes and molds her into who she will become, one mistake and I could do something that could effect her. I tell her all the time drugs are bad, do not ever take drugs, I pray it kicks in. I never drink around her because if I do she may pick that up and start drinking and her mother would kill me.
We have the biggest effect on children all people do, teachers, friends, family friends, parents, grandparents all of us, we all have an effect on children. Your at a friends house, your friend has a kid, the kid shows you a picture he/she drew, or something they wrote, and you look or read it and they think highly of you because you took the time to look at it and say well that�s good. Teachers have the same effect on children. Parents have the biggest effect, if a man hits his wife and the child sees it they think it is how it is suppose to happen they grow up and hit their spouse because they do not know any different. Most people don�t realize it. Hopefully some day they will. We also have to realize that children are little people. They should be treated like it, one thing I hate is seeing a parent yell at their kid, tell me what does it prove? That you can get more angry and more frustrated? What are you teaching that child? That when they get upset they should scream? We praise our children when they are good but when they are bad we yell and scream. I think you should stop doing that it is not teaching them anything, if the child is bad I think you should sit down with him/her and talk about what they have done , if you are mad go for a walk, don�t yell at them you are just teaching them that when they get mad they should lose their tempers and blow things out of proportion. Talk calmly with them, find out why they did what they did and give them time outs, mind you this would never work with a teen-ager. Anyways to get to my point here we should stop yelling and screaming and just try to be their friend as well as their guardian, that way in the future when they have kids they will do the same thing instead of screaming , we all know screaming never solved anything.