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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) www.howstuffworks.com This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself...good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. www.bahiker.com Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. www.terragalleria.com This is an excellent website which has beautiful pictures of different places in the world. www.jatbar.com Runned by a few ordinary people like you and me, this well-organized website has several food reviews of Bay Area restaurants. Plenty of pictures too! Check it out if you want new ideas of where to go eat. |
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| Quotes: Egotism is the glue with which you get stuck in yourself. -- Dan Post Egotism is the art of seeing in yourself what others cannot see. -- George V. Higgins The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: What are the most common instances where you see yourself being egotistical and arrogant? a) when I am by myself, so I have time to do what I want and not have to think about others. b) when I am with people where I feel inclined to 'show off' and make a good impression outwardly. c) usually in a difficult circumstance or challenge where I fear feeling and looking inept and weak. d) usually when things in my life are going well and I lose sight that those around me may not have it that easy. e) Other instances. f) None of your business: who are you to ask me that question? |
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| If you have any comments, suggestions, thoughts, etc. about this website, please email me by clicking here. Thank you for checking my website! LSC's BASEMENT: Here's another personal favorite this month. For some reason, I've been recently craving Middle East-type food, so here's a restaurant I like: Habibi Restaurant ANTI-PET PEEVES: For a growing list of things I really like, click here. I added slightly more this month than what I usually do. ARCHIVES: for website topics from previous months, click here. General Note: just to let you know, I update this website with a new topic around the beginning of each month. |
| How are you doing this month? The topic for July is similar to last month's about the ego but more directly asking the question, How do I know when I have a big ego? Specifically, when does our desire and behavior in how we perceive and value ourselves as individuals cause us to become arrogant and egotistical? Lik-See, 7-15-05 If having an ego means affirming a certain perception and value of ourselves, than I understand being arrogant and egotistical to be about affirming a perception and value of ouselves in a way that doesn't truly reflect our worth, or in a way where it's just overdone. I'm not only thinking about the loud and obnoxious bragging that comes to mind when we think of how arrogance and egotism are expressed, but it can be the more common and somewhat subtle forms: making fun of someone's perceived weaknesses or ineptness, talking to people as if the main topic of conversation should always revolve around us, being defensive and immediately disregarding someone trying to correct us, or just living an overall life to maximize our comforts and ease and freedom from pain and sacrifice instead of, for example, helping others. It's as if others around us were just background scenery in our lives as we live front and center on stage with our desires, goals and day-to-day agendas. So one place where having an ego can move into arrogance and egotistism is when we view (and live as if) our perceived worth and interests to mean more than others' worth and interests, whether it's criticizing someone to feel better about ourselves or not wanting to be inconvenienced to help a person in need. At a deeper level, this thinking may be saying and believing that our private happiness is based on propping ourselves up as much as possible at the expense of seeking to benefit others...and we may find the interesting irony played out: the more we try to make ourselves feel and look more worthy and attractive, especially above and beyond our true value, the less we become and look worthy and attractive before others. |
| I may be getting arrogant and egotistical when: 1) I live as if the world owes me the things that I want and desire, a.k.a., I feel undeservedly victimized when things don't go my way. 2) I wish I could spend almost if not all my time talking about myself to people instead of listening to what's going on in their lives. 3) I spend more time demanding things from others instead of seeing how I can help them out. 4) I always take it as a personal insult when people point out my mistakes and flaws. 5) I can' remember the last time when I admitted I was wrong in a genuine and heartfelt way...and don't care to. 6) More than one person say I'm arrogant. 7) I read this list and automatically think it applies more to others than it does to me. |
| ego. def. 1) An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit. 2) Appropriate pride in oneself; self-esteem. |
| Sidenote question: how long could you go without a mirror or any means to see your reflection and not let it bother you? |
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| Egotism: a way to inflate and lift yourself up |