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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) www.howstuffworks.com This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself...good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. www.bahiker.com Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. www.terragalleria.com This is an excellent website which has beautiful pictures of different places in the world. www.jatbar.com Runned by a few ordinary people like you and me, this well-organized website has several food reviews of Bay Area restaurants. Plenty of pictures too! Check it out if you want new ideas of where to go eat. |
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| Quotes: I never loved another person the way I loved myself. -- Mae West The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image. -- Brian Tracy The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: Do you have a (big) ego? a) Yes but not big: I think I have a fairly level-headed perception of who I am and don't go out of the way to boost my egos beyond my value as a person. b)Yes and probably bigger than I want to admit: I tend to want my ego massaged. c) Yes and a big one too: I love to boost my ego by affirming my value and getting others to tell me how wonderful I am - whether I'm worth it or not. But no, in that if I do have a big ego, I probably wouldn't admit it. d) No: I generally don't perceive myself as having much worth in my eyes and to others, although I want that to change. So would that mean I actually have a big ego? |
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| I hope you are doing well as we roll into summer. The topic for June is the question, Do I have a (big) ego?, which deals with what it means to have an ego, and what motivates it...just a few words and thoughts on something that we are driven by at some base level in our hearts and minds, something that inevitably determines how we go about our lives. Lik-See, 6/12/05 I understand the essence of the ego to be about perception and value. How do we perceive ourselves and how do we value ourselves based on that perception? Having an ego is expressed in doing things to affirm - or supposedly increase - our value as a person or at the very least the perception of our value. We're constantly pricing ourselves - and our pricing can fluctuate - based on our mental and emotional state at a given moment, what others think about us (whether or not they like us), how good or bad our situations are that we're going through, physical appearances, the amount of money and possessions we have, our talents and skills, our ability to justify our actions and deflect accusations, and basically whatever else we can hold onto or think we can hold onto to enhance our self-esteem. How much am I worth as a person? How much do I want to think well of myself and feel good about myself and be praised by others? How much does it dictate and permeate what I do and what I am doing with my life? Besides what it means to have an ego is the questions regarding when our egos become big, or actually too big. Where is that line drawn between healthy (?) self-perception of our worth and qualities such as egotism and arrogance? I'll share some ideas next month about when our egos becomes unhealthy and out-of-step with what we're really worth. Actually, what or who should determine our real worth can be a (hard) question by itself... |
| What drives or motivates our egos, i.e., our desire to give ourselves value as person whether we're worthy of it or not? If someone could read into our minds & brains, our motivation to affirm or increase our ego may honestly be saying one or more of the following: -"I'm so insecure as a person and don't think I'm worth much, so I need some self-assurance of my value by, let's say, getting others to praise me. This will help convince me that I do have some value which I can take confidence in." -"I honestly don't care if I'm worth a lot but it seems like others will only like me and be with me if I have something worth their time. So trying to look better (since no one will put up with me the way that I am) is the way to get others to love and accept you." -"I just want to want to hold on to the fact that I am ok and basically a good person. If I can't think of myself that way, who or what else can you lean on? You need something positive worth looking to, and one of the best bet is yourself, I think." -"I honestly think I'm a good person with a lot to be proud of." |
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| ego. def. 1) An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit. 2) Appropriate pride in oneself; self-esteem. |